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You have to stop ruining things for yourself preemptively because you believe they’ll fail anyway. Give yourself a chance to succeed.
“Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide.”
— (via naturaekos)
one of the greatest tragedies in life is that you will always be loved more than you will ever know. someone in class finds your presence inviting and warm, even if you’ve only ever exchanged a few words with them—maybe none at all. someone on the street loves your smile and it gets them down the next few streets. someone you used to be friends with still wishes to fondly call your name. someone you used to be friends with five years ago would give anything to be in the same room as you today. someone who regularly comes into work is disappointed when you aren’t there to brighten their day. someone missed you today. someone noticed you were gone. someone loves you when you’re there; someone loves you when you’re nowhere to be found at all. you think you have always disappeared when you’re no longer in the picture, but you’ve never left the frame.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but I just wanted to remind you that life isn’t a competition or a constant self-improvement project. You don’t have to be better or “prettier” or smarter than anyone else and you don’t have to overwork yourself to be deserving of rest. You are not behind. And it’s totally ok to find happiness or fulfillment in a life that others don’t understand. It’s ok if success looks different for you than it does to someone else. I just wanted to remind you that you are enough. You always have been. 🩷
You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.
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In light of recent news, most of the ccs agreed to postpone the episode to tomorrow. However, some eps may get out because the vids are prescheduled and not everyone will be awake to pull it out in time. So here’s what I suggest if some episodes get released early.
1. DON’T HARASS THEM, this should be a non-brainer but be kind, don’t harass them to take the videos down. They likely will anyway once they wake up, being a dick solves nothing.
2. Let’s refrain from posting about it until more episodes get released tomorrow, yeah? The general yt watchers are probably going to watch it, so the least we could do as a community on tumblr is to respect their agreement and avoid talking about or spoiling it at the very least.
a reminder for anyone who feels like they're going to spiral, do something bad to themselves or someone else, etc. :
you aren't a bad person.
it's okay to let your feelings out, but do so responsibly. there is always at least someone who will let you use them as a support system. there is always at least one healthy coping mechanism that will work for you.
take a deep breath, smell the flowers. focus on the environment around you. listen to the sounds of the outside. clench all of your muscles and slowly, one by one, let the tension go. light a few candles, or sage. pray, if your belief system includes it.
listen to reiki, asmr, or guided meditation. listen to music, no matter the genre. write out your feelings, even if it's a first draft. watch something you love; hell, do something you love. distract yourself from the feelings of guilt, anger, and anguish.
of course, you can't always run away from it. that's fine. leave it for now, and come back to it later in a healthier mindset. sleep on it. forget it in the moment.
just take care of yourself. you got this!
( anti-endogenics are able to interact with this post. self-care is for everyone. )
To all my bitches in their 20s please do not waste this time thinking you're ugly. I'm begging you not to. Try not to speak unkindly of yourself, try to do things FOR YOU that are self care. If that's nails, if that's an at home spa day, if that's the full works shower where you shave everything, if that's a hair mask, if it's walking for fifteen minutes or just doing your makeup to wear around the house I don't care what it is do it.
If you continue to fall into bad habits of speaking rudely to yourself, of not believing in yourself it's only going to get harder the older you get. Society is not kind to women, especially not aging women, which we all do. Please I implore you to look in the mirror today and compliment yourself on at least one thing. It can be physical it can be a personality trait you have, anything but you have to look yourself in the eye and you have to mean it.
I hope it's okay for me to send this ask-
I just kinda generally wanted to talk about how I ended up kinda coming to terms with exclusionists existing, and yet managing to just pay them no mind. The first time I met an exclusionist was, surprisingly enough, in real life. This one was all about denying the need for the pansexual label, as well as a very strong hatred for ace people. I really don't wanna get in detail, but it was my first time meeting someone who had so much vitriol for other people within the community. It was a pretty important part of his personality, truthfully.
Then, over time, it kinda became obvious to me that he was kinda doing it as an attempt to... Redirect the attention elsewhere? He had done a lot of harm to other people, in ways that he couldn't really argue well about (not wanna get into detail, but there was some grooming involved). Part of how he tried to cover that up was just to find another topic to be loud about, rallying people together in a specific type of hatred and becoming a big name within the community through his stupid little war against ace and pan people. When you tried to kinda bring up that he had done some really bad stuff that he wasn't even sorry about, he'd just claim you were trying to undermine his point.
Thankfully, over time, people did end up realizing he was pretty abusive, and neither ace nor pan exclusionism stuck around much within the community, and he eventually lost his power and voice. And it kinda gave me the perspective that, well. Of course not all exclusionists (of any kind- let it be against ace folk, transmasc folk, etc) are necessarily doing it as a redirection thing, but a lot of them are. You can quite literally prove some of the current transmasc hating people on this site having called for the death of minorities or having sent death threats to other folk, but if you do bring it up, they will often just try to redirect any accusation with "you are doing this because you [hate this group]" or "you are doing this because you're against [this one specific ideology]"
All in all, people who spend most of their time obsessively hating some other people who don't pose any major danger to them tend to just not be worth the time. Seeing exclusionist movements come and go, seeing the people leading them lose their relevancy once people come up to terms with the exclusionism being stupid, it's all reassuring. This will also pass. I hope that the few loud voices that wanna open massive divides between trans folk will, sooner than later, fall into the same irrelevancy than those that came before them have fallen into.
this is reassuring, thank you for this ask anon
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you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the street and know that things can be okay.
Hi have some tts comic icons of my OC babies with dialogue which has absolutely zero context whatsoever... XD cause I love drawing tts comic style and drawing my ocs
On this platform, there is always a lot of encouragement and reminders for readers to be kind to writers and I really like that but let's also remind writers to be kind to their readers, shall we?
I won't say names, but I had bad experiences with my favourite writers.
For example, such as when I only asked questions about their fanfic or blog. As far as I know, I always try to phrase it in a polite and kind tone that isn't harmful yet they answered with anger instead.
And even if they misunderstand or it's a misunderstanding, they lash out instead without further question or explanation...
It's kind of sad since this attitude discourages a reader from reading their fanfic or following their blog after.
Someone once said to me, “I hope the pain eases soon.” It struck me as the purest blessing that had ever been offered over my head - I hope the pain eases soon. It’s so gentle, so kind, so hopeful. So to everyone who’s hurting: I see how hard you’re trying, and I hope your pain will ease soon.
Just a friendly reminder as I renovate my blog to start writing again! I've gotten an uptick in interactions/follows on my blog just since I posted yesterday for the first time in a while. While I love that my blog is being enjoyed, it is intended to be enjoyed by adults (those who are 18+) not minors. I will be going through my follower count today and blocking any minors that I missed during the time I was not active. I will also block ageless and blank blogs as well so if you intend to interact with my blog, please put something in your blog that shows how old you are(or even send me a private message if you aren’t comfortable doing that!) and please don’t lie about your age. I also have this posted in my blog rules that I will link here!
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This blog is run by an adult who frequently creates and reblogs 18+ posts. It's not intended to be viewed by minors. If you are under the age of 18, do not follow or interact with me. "I'm mature for my age so I'm okay with seeing this!" is not a valid argument here. If I see you, you'll be blocked. You're welcome to come back and follow me when you are legally mature, but until then; leave.
They’re still together like 60 years later.
This is a beautiful love story.
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Indeed we do, and this is how it works.
“We often want it so badly that we ruin it before it begins. Overthinking. Fantasizing. Imagining. Expecting. Worrying. Doubting. Just let it naturally evolve”
— Unknown