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Look i don’t know where i personally stand on wether transandrophobia is a good useful term or not. But i’ve learned more valuable information about trans men/mascs (that was delivered in a genuine and kind manner) from people who use that term, than i ever have from people who despise the use of transandrophobia.
Hell i’m starting to get to a point where (even though i don’t know how to feel about the etimology) folks that hate it are getting a tentative red flag, because none of them seem to be able to be normal about trans masculine people.
Seriously if yalls first reaction to a trans masc mildly disagreeing with you or having a different interpretation about something is to immediately be a transphobic bully to all trans mascs then you are just kind of an asshole, regardless of if you’re “technically” right about the hill you’re willing to drag all of us through the mud on.
Blocking someone annoying isn’t easy for a soft boiled egg man like me but it’s still doable. Unfollowing someone amusing who reblogs 1 insufferable post every 2 weeks tho? Way too fucking difficult. So I’ve developed a strategy that’s so stupid it actually works: Roleplaying as a yugioh antagonist.
You were being mean with neither whimsy or compassion on my dash? I whisper “Blue eyes white dra/go/ fuck yourself” [unfollowed]
Bad hot take? “Get banished to the shadow realm!” [blocked]
When i start getting tempted to make posts about fandom and shipping discourse it’s probably time to log of, make some tea and read an actual book with paper pages and all :)
every time i see a somewhat left aligned cishet white manboy say that things like yasss and slayyy and other black/trans/gay things white cishet women took and fucking ran with are ~cringe~ for a split second i feel the rage
I’ve often heard and seen mental illness be compared to having a lil demon in your brain but i disagree because demons are cool and sexy and my illnesses are quite frankly stupid losers. I think pyramid scheme promoter is a lot more fitting all things considered.
knowing something to be true and feeling like something is true should logically be things that always go hand in hand together, but frustratingly enough feelings aren’t things ruled by logic and so this doesn’t always happen. one of these things that I can’t achieve any kind balance between is me knowing that I deserve accommodations and me feeling like I absolutely do not deserve them.
it’s just that when you have been taught your entire life that if you have the ability to do something on your own, you do not deserve any help making it easier to achieve, it becomes very hard to let go of that lesson even when you know it wasn’t factual. it’s too deeply hammered into you that only the helpless deserve help, so if you can do anything without help you’re obviously not helpless and obviously don’t ever deserve help.
but I now know this to be wrong
and as for what I know to be true is that there is no point in suffering.
there is no merit to taking a perilous road to reach a place you could have reached with another path that won’t force you to pay the toll with anguish.
exhausting yourself to the point of not even being able to appreciate the view of the mountain you climbed is pointless.
pain is not a virtue.
not only the mythical helpless but everybody deserves and needs help sometimes. you needing help more than the majority needs it isn’t a moral failing.
always giving everything 101% of your best is not the rent you pay for being alive.
living is hard enough without disabilities and illnesses, you shouldn’t make it harder on yourself by not grabbing onto infrequent given opportunities (and unjustly infrequent might I add!) to level the playing field.
I feel wholeheartedly that you deserve accommodations for your disabilities and illnesses be they mental or physical or what have you. I'm looking forward to day I feel wholeheartedly that I deserve them to.
but for now knowing is enough.
my insatiable desire for praise and attention + my inability to take any negative criticism and feedback keep interfering with each other and it’s ruining my enjoyment of the game
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I often think back to the time I became aware of supposed dudebros and incels adopting the whole alpha/beta/omega dynamics as part of their belief system, specifically because it happened after I had become infatuated with omegaverse fan fiction at the ripe old age of 13 and lemme tell you I was so excited when I started to hear alpha being used outside of fanfiction, which made the crushing disappointment sting all the more after discovering that these men were not my brothers in mpreg and breeding kinkery, that they weren’t even my comrades in teen wolf horniness but in fact were just misogynistic bitches who genuinely belief that a flawed study about wolves somehow gives us correct information about how humans work :/
I've seen this mentioned many times the last couple of months and I can’t help but want to cackle every time I hear it. the reason being, I've been simultaneously raised christian and muslim pretty much since I was a born until I became a teenager and rejected both religions (it’s a long story I'll spare you the ramblings).
anyways being raised that way has left me with twice the religious trauma (neat!) and I think and hope an insightful perspective regarding this statement about how it’s super “unfair” that Islam gets treated “better” than christianity. to me christianity and islam are unsettlingly similar expect for a few major differences. the first of those differences being (you guessed it!) discrimination. the disdain, violence, exclusion, disgust and hatred that are targeted at muslims is ya know dangerous. on the other hand in the current year and place where I live there is no discrimination towards christians (if anything they most of the time do the discriminating).
soooo criticizing, ridiculing and or rebelling against both of these religions comes with potentially very different consequences. what are some of the consequences for christianity? you’ll give people hurt by christianity comfort and or tools/motivation to break free from a religion that was probably forced upon them and some christians feewings get hurt UwU.
for islam tho? any criticism risks being used as the ammunition used by islamophobes to discriminate and harm innocents. maybe you think I'm making too big a deal out of this point but I'd like to point to the whole “narcissistic abuse” thing and ask you if you’ve ever wondered how that has impacted folks with npd. of course I think both people who have been hurt by islam and people who have been abused by someone with a stigmatized and demonized disorder absolutely should be able criticize that which has, and those who have, hurt them. but! I also think they owe it to those folks who have to deal with the fallout to at least try to criticize and vent in a way that doesn’t just transfer your pain onto them (and further stigmatize and demonize people).
so to the people who cry about shit like bikinis with the father, the son and the holy spirit printed on it and whine that this would never happen to islam and it’s unfair that christianity gets treated this way, I request that you cry harder and less loudly, because I assure you that your little tear puddle of righteous indignation is infinitesimal compared to the oceans of unending pain your funky little cult has caused countless innocents.
and to wrap this incoherent mess of my opinion and my feelings up. i think people should be free to follow their own religions and I also think people who have suffered by the hand of those religions are allowed to make art, jokes, sexually explicit material and what have you about those religions to cope with their trauma. but I personally draw the line at obliviously and ignorantly using coping strategies that happen to further contribute to discrimination, stigmatization and demonization of vulnerable people. and lastly I think I should be allowed to hunt the christian god for sport and eat his bones : )