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A brilliant thought.

I was about to send a message about how this is a hot fantasy when I remembered that last year my boyfriend was depressed for a month and I took it personally and ended up sucking off a guy I had just met at the bar with my best friend. I ended up dating them at the same time, but was really confused at 1. Why a guy would seriously date me after swallowing the first night and 2. How I felt such little guilt. I will never tell my boyfriend because this really did happen and it would kill him.

Let me answer those two questions for you, cutie pie.  

1) Why would a guy date a girl who sucked him off on the first night who also has a boyfriend? That’s easy. Because you’re a slut. Promiscuous women will always be more sought after. Guys won’t admit it, but everyone wants a vixen.

2) How I felt such little guilt? Sweetheart, why on earth would you need to feel guilty? You did what your body asked you to do. Something that happens in nature shouldn’t make you feel guilty. Do you feel guilty for eating and drinking? Don’t be silly.

#slut confession

Gracias dir the advice, the bar part is so true

Hello, do you currently live in Italy? I was wondering if you could give us some advice. We're Americans travelling to Rome in a few months and the wife wants to find a guy for a night of NSA fun. Basically we're looking for a third for MFM threesome. Are Italian men open to this sort of arrangement? Any suggestions on where to find someone other than a bar?

HiDifficult to answer. I think most of the guys you can find in a bar will be open to have a ride with the wife, but perhaps not that open to a threesome with another man they never met.Even more important, if you rely on this kind of casual encounters you won’t be able to filter the guys, and you won’t know who you end up with.

I’d say it’s better if you get registered on a local swingers/cuckold/hotwife site, creating a couple’s profile; that will give you the opportunity to look for an experienced man (and you’ll be able to choose the one you like the most, too) and to set up a date for when you’ll be in Rome.

Have a look for example on www.thecuckold.com (it should have an English version too, and it’s basically free), or www.annunci69.it .The second one is far bigger, probably the biggest website of this kind in Italy, but the first one sometime is better.In case you might need it, Rome is in a region called Lazio (Italy is divided into regions, similar to US states even though on a smaller scale of course). It might be useful to look for singles and bull coming from this region, if not only Rome.Good luck ;)

Bravo

Memes are NOT real life…

Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?

I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.

No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.

No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.

I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.

*rant over*

Our Rules

Today a Hotwife in the making asked for advice on how to be successful in the lifestyle and immediately my first suggestion was to establish strong and sustainable rules. As a couple our relationship is the absolute TOP priority, which is why our rules are very important to us. With that being said I figured I’d share our rules to help any other couples or singles who are looking to establish some of their own 😊

1. Any potential playmate must be verified (video message etc) and agreed upon by both parties

2. We do not ever compromise on our standards, wants/needs or quality of playmates (quality over quantity).

3. No playing with someone that you have daily contact with (friend, colleague, gym partner etc)

4. No playing or messaging with a playmate if we aren’t in good standing (fighting, upset, sad etc) or you/us arent of sound mind (tired, drunk, high etc)

5. Don’t give too much personal information to playmates - family, friends, address, real name, workplace unless ABSOLUTELY certain they can be trusted.

6. Do not seek support of problems from playmates and/or talk about our relationship issues.

7. If a playmate starts to catch feelings or visa versa it’s over

8. The pace of daily communication with playmates should be managed by us. We should not feel obligated to respond to messages daily out of courtesy.

MEETING UP

9. Let your partner (and/or someone else) know where you are when you go meet someone or host someone alone (Location name, address etc)

10. Text them when you arrive at the meeting/playdate and when leaving the meeting/playdate (or when they leave)

11. Be aware at all times with NEW playmates. Don’t drink from opened alcohol or take anything that could compromise your thought process or awareness (i.e. getting too drunk or high)

12. No bondage, handcuffs, or restraints of any kind with NEW playmates. You need to be able to leave whenever you want.

13. No pain, degradation, humiliation or disrespectful name calling EVER!

14. Take lots of pictures and/or videos when playing solo for your partner to enjoy so they can feel like they are involved even though they aren’t there. **ONLY USE OUR PERSONAL PHONES TO TAKE THEM**

15. If a playmate is looking for an on-going relationship, they should have that relationship/friendship with the both of us. If the playmate has a problem with that then there is an increased risk that they won’t respect these rules or arrangements

Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

Interesting note

How come u guys don't get jealous? When I truly love and value someone I don't want to share them. And it'd offend me if my lover didn't love me enough to feel the same way.

Unfortunately that’s a hard question to answer. If you’re not a swinger it’s hard to explain how it feels. We were the same. People would tell us that it brought you closer together and made you love each other more. That was incomprehensible to us how watching someone else with your partner could possibly be a good thing. But we eventually found ourselves in that situation and they were right! Our bond got stronger! Our sex was better! It was a turn on watching each other give and receive pleasure! It’s progressed to a stage now that we swap partners and sleep with them in separate rooms for the night. Then we swap stories the next day and have amazing sex!

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

Ultimate list of couples and females by Kilippcpl

A worth sharing post containing most of the hotwifes on tumblr, this kind couple keeps the list up to date. Thank you Kilippcpl :)

Enjoy:

 http://kilippcpl.tumblr.com/post/153511874482/the-ultimate-tumblr-list-of-couples-and-females

I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Nice advice; thank U

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.