Hotwifing In Media

Defining things... naming is inherent to human nature; here a set of definitions worth to be shared in order to get a better understanding.

Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife:  A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.  

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation.  Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

Who Knew “Just Watching” Could Be So Much Fun?

To Those Men Who Want To Watch Or Enjoy Watching Their Wife With Someone Else:

Until recently it’s been the prevailing opinion that the desire to want your wife to be fucked by someone else makes you a weak man…a pathetic & effeminate loser who lets his wife do whatever she wants to him.

But we know now that’s not true, is it?

Thanks to pioneers like @stagnationhw , @hotwivesandgames, @allaboutthehotwifelife, @oursexyexploration, and many others—we know now that there exists throngs of other men who have the desire of wanting to share their wives, sans any humiliation*. These other men are strong, independent, masculine, & secure. 

*no judgment or shade towards men who do like humiliation

We know for them that it’s not about letting your wife walk all over you because she can and because you’re too “weak” to control her, no…

Rather it’s about giving your assent, your consent, your “permission”, your encouragement and support to her so she can embrace her inner naughty side… the “darker” or “sluttier” shades of her sexuality, so to speak.

It’s about being secure enough in yourself and who you are, in your relationship with your wife and with what the two of you share so that you can identify and embrace and explore this desire you have.

For you, it’s not about weakness. It’s about strength.

It’s not about getting walked on; it’s about not being afraid to walk on the path less trodden.

It’s not about a lack of choice; it’s about a willing decision.

You’re a Stag, a Stag Cuckold, a Hotwife Husband. You are what you choose to call yourself. 

But what’s more is that you’re more of a man than those who criticize and judge your desires and choices because of their own fears and insecurities.

I say fuck closemindedness, and fuck the outdated Puritanical constraints society tries to impose upon you and shackle down your desires.

I say embrace them, because that’s what being strong is all about!

Buena nota

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos Cecilia Rosillo 14/09/2017 - 09:57 Así son los hombres que se excitan al ver a sus mujeres con otros hombres Aunque parezca extraño hay hombres que no sólo disfrutan de ver a sus mujeres teniendo sexo con otros hombres, sino que se excitan hasta el orgasmo. Se les llama Cuckold, término en inglés que significa “cornudo”, es decir, quien tradicionalmente es engañado por su pareja. “Cuckolding” es el acto en sí, que se emplea para la escena de ser engañado de forma consentida. Los Cockold no son swingers, sino matrimonios estables en los que ella se acuesta libremente con todos los hombres que quiere aún delante de su marido, que le es fiel hasta la tumba. Es un estilo de vida alternativo que cobra cada día más adeptos. De hecho, es una práctica más común de lo que muchos piensan y está muy presente en las fantasías eróticas dde hombres y mujeres. Evidentemente van en contra de la idea convencional de que el sexo siempre tiene que quedar dentro de la pareja. Él se mantiene al margen disfrutando de que su esposa tenga sexo con otros hombres más guapos, más dotados o más salvajes. Para estos hombres es un estilo de vida, además se mantienen cien por ciento monógamos mientras la mujer puede disfrutar libremente de su vida sexual; es decir, no hay un límite en sus amantes, tiene licencia para hacer lo que quiera sexualmente, pero siempre informando lo que hace a su pareja y, lo más importante, con quién lo hace. Ellos se asumen como parejas que han dado un paso más, con un grado más de confianza, donde todo se convierte en sexo y nada más. No hay enamoramiento con un tercero. Únicamente es un recurso más para explorar su sexualidad. Este comportamiento de los hombres se ha estudiado desde 1889, se explica a través de un término médico que se refiere al impulso psicológico de un sujeto de exponer a su pareja sexual o imágenes de ella ante otras personas para obtener una gratificación erótica. En una variante de este trastorno del comportamiento sexual, el hombre obtiene placer obligando a su compañera a realizar actos sexuales con otra persona. El fenómeno de excitación dicen los hombres de ciencia, se explica en parte de la siguiente manera: Cuando el hombre está en un grupo donde hay un macho alfa y tiene coito con tu pareja, le entra un instinto de competencia. Entonces hace que se vuelva más cariñoso, más atento, crea estrategias para conservar a esa persona pese a todos los demás. Entre las reglas que existen en ésto está la de que no se incluye a más de tres, porque se consideraría una orgía; ella debe informar a su esposo de sus relaciones con otros hombres sin esconder nada; si el hombre no está durante el sexo, debe recibir material que compruebe los cuernos; debe ser sexo con condón.

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos

Un video interesante, util para un corneador. Interesring video for a bull (in spanish)

Nice advice; thank U

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

Genial aportación; mil gracias.

El antro

Soy una mujer casada y con dos hijos Mi marido Es un hombre muy trabajador y tiene su propria empresa donde en el trabajo el Es muy profesional y creo que eso le stressa. En la Casa Es muy buen padre y le encanta sexo. Nuestra vida sexual Es buena pero tenemos limitaciones pues con niños no Es fácil. Tengo un buen cuerpo y me gusta sentirme bien con la ropa que pongo, mi esposo siempre que vamos a salir, me pide que me vista con ropas apretadas o bien cortas. Siempre me pidio que vistiera sexy para salir y habla que mi culo y piernas hace parar a la pinga cualquiera. Hace meses dejamos los ninos con una ninera y fuimos a tomar unas copas y me puse bien caliente por el clima y el tambien donde me dijo que tenias muchas fantasias comigo que una de ellas era que alguien nos mirara haciendo el amor. no soy muy fantasiosa pero eso me excito, tampoco siento la confianza de hablar de eso pues era algo nuevo entre nosotros otro día cuando que hacíamos el amor el me dijo cosas en el oido que al inicio me molestaba, el me decía que quisiera metérmela en cuatro mientras mamo la verga a otro. me pareció raro en ese momento pero con el tiempo hable con varias otras mujeres y percibí que eso era bien normal claro nunca he comentado a ellas sobre mi marido y sus fantasias pero he escuchado que a ellas sus maridos son asi y que les encanta, desafortunada aquellas que tienen maridos celosos a punto de no dejarte vestir sexy. Un dia fuimos en una disco y me vesti como mi marido me pide solamente por complacerlo, me puse un vestido bien corto, tacones y un maquillage bien lindo que cuando me vio no lo creia. Al llegar en la disco percebi la mirada de varios hombres y me digo que eso le excito, Mi marido y yo tomabamos drinks yo le calientaba la verga al ritmo de la musica, bailando bien sexy. Habia mas parejas bailando como nosotros, yo le dije que me gustaba la disco y allí habia personas bonitas, al pasar del tiempo nos emborrachamos y mi marido me dice en el oído y te reto a quedarte sola bailando por un tiempo mientras yo voy al baño y a comprar unas bebidas, y me confesó que le encantaria verme provocar la erecion de un desconocido en la disco con mis nalgas y yo le dije que no jugaras con fuego pues estoy bien caliente. El volvio a insistir que eso lo excitaría mucho. Me dejo solo y yo me quede bailando sola como soltera en la disco y 15 minutos se pasaron y nada de mi marido , cuando miro estaba el tomando su drink mirandome sola y me hace una senal con una sonrisa picosa como que preguntándome donde esta el show? Entonces decidi seguir el juego y 5 minutes despues percibo un hombre bien parecido bailando como que acercando a mi y me empezaron a sudar las manos y pensé que hago? Mi adrenalina subio al cielo pero bailando lo deje acercar y pase la nalga sobre su verga gruesa y bien parada y mire a mi esposo que me miraba atónico donde me dejo bailando con el desconocido y debo decir que realmente eso fue super rico y yo estaba asustada por no saber la reaccion de mi marido pero a la vez super mojada por la situacion. Luego deje el hombre ahí, le agradecí al amigo al final de la canción, el me detuvo y me dijo soy Roberto eres una chica muy sexy me gustaría conocerte más, eres muy linda fui a donde mi esposo estaba y beso y volvimos a bailar toda calenturienta yo nunca había sentido tal aventura y al oído me dijo mi esposo que estaba muy excitado con lo que vio, yo le sentía la verga más rígida que nunca, al pasar tiempo mi esposo todo excitado ya estaba muy borracho pues tomo de más estaba muy borracho para manejar camino a la casa así que me lleve el carro, y en el camino sobre la carretera estaba el amigo con quien había bailado estaba parado a la orilla de la carretera su carro se había averiado, y como mi esposo estaba tan borracho ya se había dormido, decidí acercarme al amigo Roberto y ofrecí llevarlo, gustosamente subió, íbamos los tres en el carro y mi esposo dormidito yo toda nerviosa sin saber si había hecho bien o mal solo esperaba que no se despertara mi esposo, voltie por el retrovisor y Roberto se sobaba la verga , a lo que dije que dejara de hacer eso o que no se me iba antojar, después de un rato seguimos en camino hasta llegar a su destino el cual le pedí que se bajara él se bajó y al despedirse me dio un tremendo beso que no me di cuenta y tomo la llaves del carro y me comento que no me las iba a iba a dar a menos que le diera otro beso, me baje un poco temerosa a pedírselas ya que mi esposo podía despertarse en cualquier momento, accedí a darle el beso, solo que ahora fue un tremendo beso de esos que te dan ganas de coger y yo con mi vestidito zapatillas toda cachonda, deje que me manoseara todita ya estaba toda excitada y fuera de control y a lo que yo pensaba era que mi esposo así lo hubiera querido, Roberto me volteo me bajo mi tanga y comenzó a penetrarme con una enorme herramienta que pegue un grito a lo que voltie a ver a mi esposo entre el carro y ya estaba despierto con su verga de fuera y masturbándose, me puse más caliente porque ya no había limitaciones pero si pena a lo que fuimos detrás del carro donde me hizo suya completita, Roberto parecía que no había cogido en meses me cogía bien rico incluso me cargo a dos manos detrás del carro y seguir penetrándome bien rico se la mame completa y también me la mamo incluso hasta mi anito me chupaba así bien rico, me quiso dar por mi ano pero estaba muy cerrada y me dolió mucho a lo que insistió mucho y sin querer ya estaba dentro era un joven todo loco con todo el poder y con un fuerte empujón me dio toda su leche por mi ano con dolor y placer grite, al terminar me dijo que le encanto conocerme más y que ojala se repitiera y me dio una nalgada de despedida y se metió a su casa yo toda adolorida y con toda la leche aun dentro busque mis zapatillas me acomode el vestido y por cierto no encontré mi tanga, me subi al carro, y no traia interiores y el todo emocionado y con la verga de fuera hasta que llegamos a la casa hicimos sexo y el me perguntaba se a mi me gusto lo que hice y yo le hablaba que me encanto sentir la pinga del desconocido en mi interior. Luego en el otro dia pense que mi marido me iba cobrar lo que hize pero al contrario toda vez cuando tenemos sexo dice que quiere repetir lo de la vez pasada y eso me vuelve loca. Ya le hablo de fantasias y Siempre planeamos algo morboso donde el me pueda exibir para otros hombres. Descobri que a el le encanta y excita y a mi igual pues yo soy la estrella en todas las fantasias, ya me he desinhibido y varias hemos hecho cosas como ir a un hotel y pedir una pizza y yo atender la puerta solo de toalla donde el entregador me mire y ya llegue a dejar caer la toalla, mi marido Mira de un rincon donde no lo ven. Eso paso a ser algo mio y de el , un secreto solo de nosotros dos lejos de la sociedad. Amo mi marido pues percebi que amar no es de celos pero si confianza, decidi que vamos a un resort swinger a mirar y entender pues tengo un marido amigo y hago toda las picardillas por el y el por mi. Bueno espero que yo alla ayudado parejas en la misma situacion y les digo a las mujeres no pierdan tiempo en su morbo, si tienen un marido como el mio, lo disfrutes pues somos muy afortunadas pues estos no estan buscando mujeres por ahi pues nosotras somos sus fantasías

How to transform her into a hotwife.

Practice tip # 2.

Use Porn — Gifs and clips to explore the boundaries of her sexuality.

This is gonna sound worst than it is but teasing out the inner hotwife in your woman will likely require a little bit of mild manipulation on your part. Remember, she has grown up in a judeo -Christian society that stigmatizes sex and neuters it of its pleasure and creativity. It’s a shame that men can walk around in public shirtless showing off washboard abs, hard pecs, and chiseled biceps, but if a woman puts on a form fitting dress and some heels she’s considered a whore. Don’t get me started. I digress.

My point with this lesson is porn will be one of the most important tools for you to use to transform your girl into a hotwife. In this lesson you will use porn ostensibly to ask her opinion about sex but covertly you will be leading her to exploring her sexual boundaries and more importantly causing her to explore them as well. You will also, and here is where the slight manipulation comes in, use porn to normalize sexual behavior that you like by suggesting everyone is doing it. For example by using gifs and clips that show anal sex, sloppy BJs, threesomes, etc., if done correctly overtime, you will not only pique her curiosity but in some cases work her into a frenzy wanting to try it. Be careful what you wish for because once she decides it’s something she really wants to experience she may do it with or without you!!

How is this done? It’s easy really. You should start to collect short clips and Gifs that demonstrate the kinds of sexual experiences that you want to open her up to. You should also collect photos of popular celebrity women, especially her favorites dressed provocatively. You will use the images you collect sporadically to not only learn what she likes and is open to do, but more importantly introduce her to new experiences and behaviors that go beyond her comfort zone. Your goal here is not to force her to do something she’s not comfortable with. Your goal here is to enlarge her comfort zone so that she is engaging in new behaviors willingly and passionately.

My ex used this technique on me. I never saw it coming and only realized it was part of a plan long after we had broken up. I had actually considered a threesome in my head because I have a hot girlfriend who told me she got drunk one night and did it with two guys. She said it was cool. I was intrigued but I didn’t tell her and I certainly would not have told my BF. It was a secret that I was too ashamed to admit or even think much about because I didn’t want to be considered a slut. However, after my boyfriend used this technique on me, not only was I admitting to him that I wanted two dicks but I was tellling him while sucking his cock and pumping a dildo in my pussy. It took time to get there but it started with him sending one gif of a hot girl getting spit roasted by two guys. He captioned with “whoa. This is hot”. He didn’t ask me to respond to it but by captioning it the way he did he removed all negative judgment by letting me know he liked it and it turned him on.

Over time he would occasionally send threesome gifs followed by questions that sometimes had nothing to do with the sex. He might refer to her clothing, shoes or hair I.e “I could see you with that haircut” or “she kinda looks like you”. He deftly put me in the scene. His comments caused me to imagine myself in her position. He also would make a lot of positive comments about the girl like “she’s a boss” or “she has a lot of confidence to do that” Jis comments were designed to make me see the woman in a positive light. I remember him asking me once what I thought it would feel like to have all that stimulation happening to my body at the same time. That question really resonated with me. His technique got me thinking more and more about threesomes. Not just thinking about them but believing that all confident, good looking girls were doing it. I began feeling left out and the thought of my hot friend being with two guys certainlybdidnt hurt my BF’s efforts. It wasn’t long before I opened up and started commenting back on the gifs and clips. I even kept a few I really liked and used them to masturbate to.

Porn is a versatile tool and can be used to advance your goal of making a hot wife in other ways too. I may address those uses in a future post. No go out and start dragging the inner slit out of your demure girl next door.

Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

A great advice

Thank you!

We have been married 18 yrs, and we have fantasized about hotwifing for about 8 yrs. Our sex life is great, and we always act out the hotwife idea everytime we have sex by dp and dirty talk. We have discussed about doing it for real several times, but she is too worried about something going wrong like std, moral values, etc. I have gotten very serious about wanting to do this but she wont plan it, although she is showing signs that she really wants to. I have thought of just making it happen.

No no no…. The basis of cuckolding is absolute openness and honesty. It’s not something you can start with deception and hope it ends well. If you want it and she wants it but she can’t pull the trigger then she’s just not ready. If you try to manufacture it without her knowing you open the relationship to resentment and guilt. Even if you could make it happen what happens if it doesn’t go well or she regrets it and blames you? These are things that need to be talked about before hand. You have to be on the same page about everything. That being said there are ways to coax it along. Playing the “would ya” game. “Out of all the people we know who would you fuck if you had the chance?” That kind of thing. Get her talking about it in a real life sense.

Also play the bar game where you go and watch her from afar while she flirts. She doesn’t have to fuck anyone. You could come over and “win” her away from the guy and then go fuck like bunnies. It’s a gradual thing. A frog in a gradually heating pot. Baby steps. But she has to be in agreement as to what the rules are.

But at the end of the day if she can’t do it then she can’t do it. At least you have a sexual wife that you love who is willing to fantasize with you about your deepest desires. There are tons of men who would give their left nut to have what you have.

Play the game but never be deceptive.

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