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Low key thinking about starting a WEBTOON but idk if anybody would read it, and I don’t know if I have the motivation....

Uhhh Howdy?

I like to sew.

And because of that I make Stuffies.

I also like stuffies.

I also also SELL stuffies.

I have a my own website and everything!

It’s not great or anything, but it works and I made it myself!

The only issue is I don’t ship them nationally so I only can share them within the San Antonio, TX area.

So if you are willing to support me or just really want a custom stuffie, check out my website!

https://sites.google.com/view/sonny-little-stuffies-co/product-info

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Howdy, I’m Sonny, your local enby demiboy and I’m here to talk about ✨names✨

Okay so this is mostly a personal rant (feel free to skip)

Ok so

The summer before 8th grade I had determined I didn’t like being called my legal name or the (god damned) nickname that came with it. So I started thinking about names that could pass as nicknames for my legal name.

I was listening to musicals like I often do and in the heights came on, and I guess you can see where this is going.

I chose my name in honor and reference to Sonny and kept that spelling as a way to convince that it was derived from legal name.

And so I started introducing myself as Sonny. It made me happy, when people call me Sonny I would be more excited to answer, and my mom started introducing me to her friends as Sonny.

Mind you, I changed my name before I determined it was okay for me to question my gender.

When I accepted that I wasn’t cisgender I started to think of ways I could either come out to my mother or gain comfort without.

I have determined that I shouldn’t come out, not with how my mom see’s people who fall out of the binary and even those who just don’t associate with their AGAB.

But I started to drop hints that I dislike how my figure falls. Y’know specifically the stupid flash sacks hanging from my torso.

This is about the time that things started to change.

My mom stopped introducing me as Sonny.

It was slow at first

“Oh this is Sonny”

“Oh this is my DAUGHTER, *legal name* but SHE goes by Sonny”

“This is *legal name*”

“This is *god damn evil nickname*”

I don’t know if she suspects something, but she’s the type to confront you if she is suspicious.

That’s how I got dragged out of the closet as asexual.

But I just wanted to illustrate how bad it can make you feel when someone ignores your name.

When she stopped using my preferred name, it felt like she decided I didn’t have to be respected.

I don’t need to be acknowledged correctly.

I don’t have to feel comfort or joy when someone addresses me.

I don’t think that’s just me.

My heart hurts so to distract myself Imma tell you why vision tests are stupid.

Ok so I recently got my learners permit so I had to take a vision test but that one wasn’t bad. But it made me think about how much bullshit vision tests are.

When you take a vision test and they have you do your eyes separately but you have to read the same line?

Idk about other people but I already memorized what the line says because the doctor always makes me read with my dominant eye first, so I know what the line says even if I can’t see it clearly?!?

And I tried to convey this to my doctor and she was like well then you can read it, which no?!?

So now I have a lighter prescription than I used to and I can’t see well for shit.

i don’t think we acknowledge enough that when children want to be treated “like adults” what they really mean is “like people”

this is just my own observations of course but 90% of the time when a kid tries to get people to treat them like an adult, what they really want is the respect and acknowledgement that they associate with adulthood - because that’s what they must give the adults. they have to give that to the adults in their lives, but the adults never give that same respect back, and so they see that difference and decide that they want to be treated “like an adult”

and sometimes i see parents who are like fine you want to be treated like an adult then you can work and pay rent but that’s the exact OPPOSITE of what the kid is actually asking for. you’re just belittling them, clearly intending to punish them for daring ask for your respect, clearly intending for them to break down and beg to be “treated like a child” again because you purposefully twisted their wants. they ask for respect, and you give them abuse.

never, ever, ever, treat a child like a full grown adult. it’s our responsibility as adults NOT to, because they ARENT adults no matter how much they think they want to be, and it’s our job as adults to take care of them.

that said, ALWAYS treat children like people. because they ARE that. they’re real people with real agency acting as best as they know to with what knowledge they have

it’s not a matter of kids trying to grow up too fast, it’s a matter of kids wanting to be treated like people instead of objects or pets.

So.

Another 751 unmarked graves were found at a Saskatchewan residential school.

Seven hundred fifty one.

so can we start hunting down white liberals now or what

“why bother writing bisexual characters if they just end up in a m/f relationship”

my dude

my guy

my pal

stop talking forever

i can tell i’m sleep deprived bc i just made myself cry about tutankhamun and i have, like, negative interest in the kid

Howdy from your local demi boy, enby, he/they. I am your parent and you are safe here.

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Favorite pride memory?

Ok so as I’ve said before, I’ve never been to a pride parade or protest because I’m not exactly allowed to go, but I do quietly celebrate pride.

Last year, I was inspired by a video I saw to make a cactus sweater! Y’know cause ace/aro cactus! So that’s probably my favorite pride memory

Thank some one who helped you get where you are.

I’d like to thank Thomas Sanders for providing the queer content my repressed soul needed throughout middle school and beyond.

Thank you Thomas Sanders @thatsthat24

Show us your pride outfits!

Uh sorry no

I don’t feel comfortable sharing pictures of me on tumblr ✌️

What song would be playing on my pride float?

I...

I don’t know how to explain why other than I live this song and Robin is LGBTQ+.

Who’s on my pride float!

If I could have anybody on my pride float for asexuality/aromantism, I would choose Yasmin Benoit and Cavetown.

I don’t know a lot about actually pride parades because I’m not allowed to go to them so I don’t know if my choices make sense but yeah!

Read up on intersectionality in the pride community!

Okay so I know a lot about this kinda stuff because my friends use a lot of labels that people often over generalize as being “basically the same thing” when that’s not true.

Sure they have similarities, but similarities don’t mean they’re identical.

The biggest example is probably bi, Pan, poly, omni.

As I personally know at least one person each who identifies with one of these labels, I’m do my best to break it down from how it’s been explained to me.

Bi

Being attracted to two or more genders

Poly

Being attracted to multiple genders

Omni

Being attracted to all gender/lack of but maybe having preferences, maybe not, but acknowledges different genders

Pan

Being attracted to people regardless of gender

I am not an expert and some people may use these terms in different ways, I am merely restating what I have heard.

These labels are often widely down to,

“Oh, you’re basically bi”

Which is some stupid shit

They are similar

Not the same.

Share your glow up!

HA

No.

A drag performer who inspires me?

Oh it would haaaave to be Todrick Hall.

I absolutely adore his works and his music.

Honestly I don’t know that many real drag queens as I wasn’t allowed to watch that kinda content growing up, so mostly I have discovered drag content to watch in the last two years.

Despite my drag ocs...

Ahhhh I thought I posted this but nooooo it was deleted.

Anyway.

I love Phineas and Ferb

And I like to draw.

Sooooooo

I redrew the Phineas and Ferb gang a bit older and in more modern styles.

So let’s see shall we?

First up we have Phineas!

(Who is totally a trans guy)

I feel like Phineas definitely had some form of attention deficit disorder so I gave him a fidget toy, although I suppose he would probably make his own little gadgets to fidget.

I kept his design pretty much the same as his original but tried to give him a bit of a TikTok boi vibe with the puffy jacket over his pretty standard summer look.

I really wasn’t planning to give him the triangle head and just give him angular features but my friend insisted he wasn’t Phineas without the triangle head, sooooo.

And I gave the boy a butt load of freckles because that’s what he gets for those king summers.

Up next we have my personal favorite, Ferb!

First of, Ferb is definitely non binary he/they aro spec ace. I don’t make the rules. I just head canon.

Anyways..

Ferbs design is pretty much the same just with a bit of a more e-boy vibe.

Exchange the purple high-waisted pants for black high-waisted skinny jeans, and a purple sweater over his white button down.

And the iconic ace ring.

And dyed purple hair because we know Ferb would have that phase.

Also lots of piercings that he probably let Phineas give him and the freaking skater boi vanns.

AYYEEE PRETTY LADY, Isabella!

Preppy fighter girl vibez with this one!

Isabella definitely is an upstanding student but absolutely no one would mess with her.

Again kept her style pretty similar with some more modern touches, changing her overall dress look to a skirt with suspenders and a white king sleeve blouse instead of her original t shirt.

I darkened her skin tone because I just feel it suits her better and put her hair up in pig tails since she’s a very active person and would probably want it out of her face, similar to the braid we see in act your age.

The gloves are mostly fan service to me along with her being a BA.

You know she’d beat the living shit out of anyone who even tried to hurt her friends.

The nerdy babe is up next, Baljeet!

He basically got a similar revamp to Isabella, overalls being replaced with pants and suspenders and long sleeve instead of t shirt.

I gave him the whale dress socks as both a reference to the whalemingos (that his boyfriend won’t shut up about) and as a reference to my irl friend who wears funky socks all the time.

I gave him those cute little glasses because I can see him wearing them as reading glasses and that’s his justification because why else would someone wear glasses that small they are simply illogical-

And the bling.

Pocket watch is a reference to my other friend... and the necklace was just a nice touch.

The man, the myth, the bully! BUFORD!

Ok so act your age did my mans so dirty.

Let Buford be thicc.

I get the long hair, I can see it but also,

MAN BUN.

Otherwise I think Bufords style probably wouldn’t change that much, he’s got that grungey vibe , so I kept his shirt and turned his cargo shorts to pants.

I added the letterman jacket because he probably joined football but I added some patches I think he’d have, like the theater patch as an allusion to his directing passion, the drums from the Baljeetles, and a feminist patch because this man chugs that respect women juice.

And the ace ring because you can fight me on the fact that Buford is a gray ace.

Finally we have the queen of Mars, Candace!

Ok so Candace is definitely a trans girl (future post coming about that)

I can totally see Candace being a harujuku girl, 100% inspired by her obsession with ducky momo, who is on her tank top.

I kept the elements from her initial design like her red sweater, but I lengthens the sleeves and for her skirt I changed the white accents to a trim rather than her belt.

I also added a bunch of references to her personal tirades and just the show in general

For example, Chicago joe and Mary in her hair accessories and the hair wrap around her bun being zebra print, the skull pin from when Buford worked for her for a day and all the references on her shoes.

Anyway...

That’s all for now, if anyone cares to hear more of my Phineas and Ferb rambles, my asks are always open

Or if anyone’s interested in more of my art

Have a swell day!

Song that reminds me of pride?

Ok so probably really basic but

Yeah...

I don’t have much else to say.

Favorite LGBTQIA+ moment in video games?

I don’t really play video games...

Soooo

The best I can do is tell you a cute story about among us.

Okay so one day when me and my friends were bored and all still played among us, my friends asked me to join an among us game.

I joined their lobby and they’re username was trans babe.

That was how she chose to come out to me.

It was freaking adorable, dude.

But yeah that’s the only thing I really have for today!

My favorite LGBTQIA+ TV moment!

My by far favorite lgbt moment on TV would have to be the Ruby and Sapphire wedding on Steven Universe! It was so precious and the entire episode was sooooo good!!!

Ahh I forgot to do this yesterday day

Favorite lgbt meme?

Favorite Lgbt ship?

Would absolutely have to be zukka

I read a ton of fanfics and love all the fanart.

I love a lot of ships but if I listed them all we’d be here awhile.

When did I realize I wasn’t straight?

Well I suppose that’s a difficult question.

For the longest time I was convinced I would marry a man and have 5 kids. But as I learned more about the world I found terms that just felt better.

In 6th grade, I started out with saying I was bisexual because it was the first term I learned. I thought it was appropriate because I thought girls were really pretty which I thought meant I could fall in love with them. But I still never thought I could have sex with a women and I had kind just pushed out of my mind the fact that for kids I would “need” to have sex.

In the same year, I was introduced to romantic attraction terms and started going by Biromantic heterosexual. That lasted about three months when I was introduced to the term asexual.

I have identified as asexual since I was in middle school and have ever since.

I also started questioning my gender identity around this time but we’ll get back to that.

Now even though I had determined that I was ace, I still had it in my brain that I needed a romantic interest to appease the concept I grew up with.

So I jumped around between deciding who my “crush” would be. From a sweet femme person I admired to a girl that would become one of my best friends.

I tried as I might to love them the way they wanted me to. I tried so hard with putting romance behind every I love you.

But I just can’t.

I don’t feel that way.

I just don’t, no matter how I try.

And that’s okay. They accept me.

It was around the time I determined I was aro that I decided there was no point in denying that I didn’t feel like a girl.

I still don’t. I identified for awhile as androgyne because if my mom ever asked me about my gender it wouldn’t break her heart as much.

But recently I’ve determined I do like being associated with being a “girl”.

So I have decided to settle with the term Demiboy as of now.

He/they pronouns.

My favorite LGBTQIA+ historical figure?

I am not sure.

I could list only a few of the top of my head in general.

I like Salvador Dali (asexual) for his art and his different view of the world but he didn’t really do anything for the community.

I read a while ago about someone who worked with Martin Luther King Jr, fought alongside him, who identified as homosexual but I can’t for the life of me remember his name. I saved an article about him somewhere but I can’t find it. If anyone knows who I’m talking about, help me find his name.

He would probably be my favorite LGBTQIA+ historical figure.

Which LGBTQIA+ cliche do you most identify with?

Here’s the thing.

As an asexual I most identify with beanies and succulents and Galaxy shit.

But as an enby, I am both the flamboyant goth layers for days and the reddie love child button ups and Fanny pack wearing smart ass depending on the temperature outside.

Favorite LGBTQIA+ tumblr!

For sure would have to be @crimson-chains

I absolutely love all of their works and am always waiting. For them to update both on tumblr and their other accounts.

If you see this @crimson-chains, I want you to know that you bring so much joy into my life and are an absolutely amazing artist and storyteller, thank you for all you do!

My pride playlist.

Does just all of cavetown count?

Okay! This I can do! What’s your favorite LGBTQ book?

Well I just finished reading a book called “Meet Cute Diary” which is about a trans guy who writes a blog called the meet cute diary and it’s a bunch of meet cites involving trans people. The catch is though, that he made them all up and someone calls him out in it! The plot is him trying to find a way to prove that he isn’t a fraud and save his blog and maybe find love along the way!

I’m always looking for good queer books and just picked up another one recently although I haven’t started it yet because I’m saving it to read on the road.