Back With Another Alternative Unsure-if-it’s-a-hot-take-here-but-would-def-be-a-hot-take-on-other-social-media-platforms.

Gyns…. I had a date and finally got kissed on the lips by a girl for the first time yesterday 🤭🤭🤭 y’all have to deal with my rant now lol

I made her a bouquet of her favorite flowers and took her to dinner at a Thai place nearby my house, and then we went to see “Sinners” afterwards (good movie btw) and ugh it was so healing and peaceful after how anxious I always felt trying to date men.

She’s so pretty too, 70s-90s vintage femme to my 70s-90s vintage butch lol. And she respects that I’m a stone top; while she didn’t previously understand the Stone/Princess dynamic before meeting me, she said it’s actually something she’d wanted but didn’t know had a name. She’s also spiritual like I am, and she’s got big 1920s pouty eyes and a nose piercing and UGH y’all I think I have a crush 😭 We’ve been talking for about 6 weeks now but she was preparing for finals at college about an hour’s drive away so we couldn’t meet up until after she got through with them and moved back home for the summer nearer to where I live.

Anyway tho we were sitting in her car waiting for my dad to pick me up after the movie, and she kept stalling even after he arrived so I figured she wanted a kiss, so I asked her, and she said yes but she wanted me to close my eyes because she was shy, so I did and she grabbed my cheek and gave me a few all one after the other and UGH I just love being a lesbian so much.

It’s also really healing to take the part of the “pursuer” in this circumstance (which obviously isn’t necessarily a thing butches or tops have to do, I just happen to be a stereotype lol) after past experiences that left me a little shaken. This time around I get to take that role and do it right, and I think I’m already doing a good enough job because she trusted me to hold her purse when she went to the restroom lol.

Idk I’m just really happy and it’s like that deep, calm happiness where everything just feels right for the first time in your life and you can just enjoy the experience.

I’m not really understanding what u mean by this? I’m not running my blog to trauma dump my life’s sorrow but I’ve definitely had more than my fair share of horrible experiences including CSA, grooming, conversion therapy, escaping a religious cult, even more SA, and an abusive relationship that included knives being pulled, off the top of my head. I’m just not out here to talk about them in gory detail.

“This should be considered a problem for men” like my bad experiences were caused by men, or I myself am a problem for men somehow? The former is true and I do talk about that but again, I’m not here to go into crazy detail or spend undue attention on past abuse, especially in this post which was supposed to be more positive.

Radical feminism, centering women, and worshipping female deities really turned my life around FAST because what do you mean my constant mental health problems are slowly alleviating, I’m making new female friends, I’ve finally left behind the toxic male friends, I’ve applied to and gotten my first management position, I’m gaining weight and muscle, and I’m talking to a lovely beautiful femme all within this year so far. Like I know radical feminism covers very serious issues too and politically life kind of sucks, but life really is beautiful as well when you center women and female-ness among the chaos. I love rad feminism and I love lesbianism.

I love old media warning society of ✨ dangerous butches ✨ bc it’s always

“this woman WILL wear mens shoes and will STEAL YOUR WIFE”

“butch dykes are HANDSOME and GOOD IN BED”

“you WILL be seduced and they have a HIGH SUCCESS RATE”

“they prey on women DISAPPOINTED IN MEN and give them WAY MORE ORGASMS”

“DON’T let your loved ones receive LOVE from AFFECTIONATE LESBIANS”

Girl why you calling yourself bitch

It’s a reclamation thing for me, same reason I call myself a dyke. I am one, according to social standards of female behavior, I’m loud and opinionated, I take up space, I express my hatred for people and things without apology. The slur loses its power if I call myself it first, and with affection. I like being a bitch and a dyke, and being unlikeable to men and women who uphold the patriarchal system. I like the freedom it gives me to be an undeniably mean lesbian.

Also I’m punk and we do have a history of using strong language to get people’s attention lol

lesbianism as shown by @sweatermuppet

A woman: So I recently developed ovarian cancer & I could sure use someone to talk to about it

Trancels on Tumblr: Um this is kinda problematic sweetie. Trans women dont have ovaries & ur sure being cissexist when u bring them up. Bringing up the cancer u have in an organ that’s exclusive to females is transphobic & by trying to discuss a womens’ issue youre basically saying you want all trans women to DIE, so uh…

It’s because they have this “perfect victim” mentality towards women of color. They’re just so innocent, kind, and helpless, accepting of everyone because they’re just so desperate for help they will accept minor amounts of abuse instead of major— I mean, they’ve always been accepting of these things!!

Whereas in reality women of color are just as able to form opinions based on logic as anybody else. In my opinion they don’t deserve to be treated like some child that needs saving, by people who liken them to men but in a progressive way this time. They’re allowed to have the focus solely on them, to demand more solely on their own merit and not that of nebulous “black trans women” (half of which were self-admittedly just transvestite, looking at you, people who screech about Marsha P Johnson)

Also women of color are the most effected by the sex trade, but nobody wants to talk about that because then they’d have to stop jacking off to their favorite victim and telling themselves it’s moral because it’s inclusive. So instead they twist our words and ignore us. There’s plenty of radfem women of color and I’d even argue it’s more normalized within every other group except white women, in my experience and research. Especially when you look outside of America (like the so-called transphobic 4B movement from South Korea). People are just willfully short sighted to serve their own choices and preconceived notions of the world.

The idea that radical feminism is just for white women and that all radical feminists talk about is white women is so laughable to me. I hate to break it to these people but equating the idea of a fight for gender equality with white western culture and labelling the misogynistic elements of non western cultures as progressive and based is actually so harmful. I care about all women, I’m not going to turn a blind eye to women of colour being oppressed by their own cultures out of fear of being labelled a racist sorry.

no the female character who is a masculine woman is not secretly a transgender man and yes you saying that she is is misogynistic <3

I’ve already done this once lol but I’d love to talk to other people too!!

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