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Some things you carry.

Some things carry you.

Ba Ghi Ri E De, Pueblo Indian woman carrying a water pot on her head. - Porter - 1907

“You’re overreacting.” Me, about to liberate the galaxy AND the breakroom.

You’re not weak for staying silent. You’re calculating risk in a world that punishes honesty.

If you're considering going public read this.

It wasn't a secret. It was a system.

Tree swallows.

Birds around New York city. 1942.

Internet Archive

“I'ma keep running 'cause a winner don't quit on themselves.”

“It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work.” — Wendell Berry

Theodor von Hörmann - Forest path (ca. 1878-1880)

“I always knew the world moves on.

I just didn’t know it would go without me.”

Therapist: How's work going?

Me:

Women In Tech: A Relatable Story?

Hey everyone, 

I'm a 31 F, working at an architectural design firm. I will keep this short because I am pretty upset and I know it will just turn into a big rant if I don't.  

I am newer there and lower level - junior designer slash BIM tech. But I have a degree and am frankly overqualified based on past experience and my skill set. We have a few Slack groups divided up by project, job and client. I'm on most of them because I am a newb, they have me bouncing all the time from thing to thing. So I get to see most of the messages across the company. 

It's almost all men. 30s to 50s. I am one of two women in the entire place other than cleaning staff. I almost didn't take the job because of that but I have a kid and student loans and can't not keep my pay at the level it was. 

My secondary work computer is a laptop and it was stolen a few weeks ago. It wasn't backed up so I lost a lot ofwork and had to redo it. It took a lot of extra time. This caused delays and a headache with two big clients and my project leads and boss have treated me like absolute shit ever since. 

After that the running joke on Slack about “diversity hires” has been getting out of control.Nobody has said they mean women specifically but all the details about what happened with me have been mentioned very clearly. The have gone as far as saying it's so sad how the company is “lowering the bar", that this is why the economy is so bad. 

The supervisors are on these threads too. They steer clear of that stuff but they don't stop the constant jabs either. Based on their treatment around the office I feel like they actually hate me. I can't go to them. The owner is the biggest douchebeg of them all. 

We are all contractors I think so there is no HR. It's "in the works" they tell me. 

The other woman I work with has become an ally and a friend through this and we want to get out of there but yeah we can't afford it. We want to resist. But there is nothing to do about it. Sick to my stomach of the backward slide things are taking, women are becoming second class citizens again.

Want to burn the place down. Nowhere else is hiring where I am.

Sorry if there are men on this thread I know you are not all the same but sorry sometimes it feels like you are.

I am so frustrated I want to scream.

They called it “just a comment"

I called it

three weeks of anxiety, five skipped shifts, and a therapist

I couldn’t afford

Ready to quit your job?

How To Decide If You Should

Hopecore! 💓

🌸stay tune 📺 . .

sorry for upcoming long vent:

so my local situation has been pretty horrid since new presidential era lmao (i think same thing can be said to US situation as well) .. im still trying to find a good balance of my headspace to keep creating and what motivates me to keep going, and for now... i think what motivates me to want to create is to be where my followers (or those who enjoys my art) can stay sane or be reminded of what's still good in our normal, mundane days to strive for. I hope we can be together to strive for hope. so yea, i will try to keep illustrating, creating, experimenting! being a doomer wont do me or anyone moving forward, but I will do what i know best to keep the cog moving.. sorry to be hopecore it's my only weapon for now lol!

From the series "Civilizations", 1983 - by Vitaly Butyrin (1947 - 2020), Lithuanian

Most people think of harassment as a “moment.” But it’s what happens after — the isolation, the doubt, the silence — that changes your life.

just because

no one saw it

doesn’t mean

you imagined it

You get punished twice — once for what happened, and again for how you react.

Anxiety isn't drama...it's data.

Chiharu Shiota: Stairway (2012)

Part of the problem is when you become overwhelmed and burnt out; making any decisions isn’t what helps. People forget that when you get to a place of burn out. The last thing your mind wants to do is make more decisions. It’s burn out, it just wants to rest and not have to constantly choose this or that.

To train - not in vain! (Winston, your art is sublime!!)

Aftermetoo

Training

Aftermetoo partnered with the Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children (CREVAWC) at Western University on th

Train in vain, O. Winston

We whisper because when we scream, we get labeled 'DIFFICULT'

What's a 'whisper network'?

Given a choice between accepting that something awful has happened, or thinking that someone is mistaken, exaggerating, or lying, much of the time our brains will deny the awful thing happened.

most people

who are harassed at work

never file a complaint.

not because they don’t care but

because they’re scared it’ll make

everything worse.

Say it with me now:

You owe your employer NOTHING.

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships 

You are not imagining it. If something feels off, it probably is. Doubt is part of the pattern. So is denial.