No Bc Guys. People Are Sleeping On The Will Byers Trauma Train Somehow. Like HOW? This Boy Isn’t Compelling

cop shows are like "dammit! we would have caught babyeater mike by now if people didn't have rights,"

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

I think it needs to become common knowledge that "inability to read social cues" can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed, so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know if someone is irritated with you, so you'll be extra generous and self-effacing.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work so you'll kill yourself in a minimum-wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this.

"Hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't know when to stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so i can stop tracking everybody's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

Here's the thing. No, Will didn't want to be treated with kid gloves. He didn't want to be babied or treated differently.

What he did want — what he needed — was understanding. Which is something Mike did not afford him in season three.

He didn't want them to treat him like a baby or hover. He did want them to understand why he was clinging to the childhood they all seemed to have left behind. The childhood that was stolen from him.

He didn't want to be shamed for trying to go back to a time before. Before the Upside Down. Before those seven terrifying days. Before he died. Before he was possessed. Before he endured physical and mental pain the rest of them couldn't even begin to imagine. Before there was a monster in his mind, one who still won't leave.

some of u reblog the most ableist posts without even realizing n it's so sad.

"you're depressed bc ur an adult who doesn't exercise n u only eat pre-made meals which is also why ur in pain all the time" bruh have u heard of being disabled? if i exercise i will get worse. regardless of food (which takes a lot of time/money/energy to prepare, not to mention food restrictions some of us need to find a way around!!) or exercise i am still in pain every day.

i was in pain when i played basketball at a national level at 14 and when i ran over 1h every day and also went to the gym at 21 and when i rode my bike a minimum of 40km up and down hills daily at 23 AND i am in less pain now at 25 bc I've learned not to push my body beyond it's limit.

"you're depressed because adult humans need to have sex" like that's the most ridiculous take I've ever heard lmao maybe U need to have sex to avoid depression and maybe some of us cannot have sex for traumatic reasons which will trigger even more depression. maybe things aren't black n white u should not be spreading such misinformation?

i beg yall ableds to pick up a book on the relation between trauma & pain & capitalism and also, while I'm at it, to fucking stop putting neurodivergencies on the same level as for e.g. spinal cord injuries. it ain't the same!

obviously a balanced diet + physical exercise can seriously improve some people's lives but not all of us have the capacity to make that happen. not all of us have the self sufficiency let alone external help to enjoy such privileges. just... be kinder & be careful with the info ur putting out there?

When I knew Will was gay in 2016, during the first party scene, it wasn't because of some stereotype. It wasn't anything he said or the way he looked or his mannerisms or whatever.

There are just certain behaviors that a queer person can recognise for what it is. That simple act of telling Mike it was a seven behind the party's back told me all I needed to know.

Because as a queer person, I've done that.

I've looked for that extra attention, that special connection, that idea of 'us two against everything else', even our other friends. Especially at that age, when you didn't even know yet what it meant.

And sure, it could be nothing, there could technically be another explanation. But ultimately it's a clear as day sign of young love as Lucas and Dustin stalking Max. Specifically, young queer love, which looks slightly different from heterosexual crushes.

So yeah, when straight people are able to 'tell' whether a person is queer it's usually based on stereotypes, because they could never get it, but that doesn't mean it's the same for queer people. That's ultimately what 'gaydar' has always been - recognising behaviors that make you go "oh they're like me" not the typical "oh they're wearing this" or "floppy hands" or whatever. Not "oh they cuff their jeans!" or "finger guns!".

That's why 'Byler is the gay ship for gay people' - queer people recognise their behavior for what it is. That's why the GA can't connect with Mike.

They can't fathom the fact that Mike wouldn't call Will at all if he had a crush on him. But as a queer person, you recognize how figuring out your feelings often means distancing yourself from them. Both because you're fighting your queerness and because it just hurts to be around them, even - especially - if they are your best friend.

sorry professor I could not do this assignment. there are fictional characters in my head.

hate cunts who are like "well maybe this piece of art doesn't mean anything" Your desire for simplicity is boring! Bitch!!!!! everything in the whole world means everything 2 me ....

reblog this post if you're strong enough to :3 in 2023

there is something so darkly comical about tumblr potentially outliving twitter

tumblr, which is held together with duct tape and madness, run by three raccoons in blood stained Yahoo! hats and a handful of crabs, its only discernible source of income the sale of shoelaces from an inside joke so inside no one knows the original source anymore and fake blue checkmarks... that website still lives on

truly the cockroach of social media and I love it for that