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good luck to everyone who has school soon but your sleeping schedule is wrecked beyond repair

im about as straight as a pugs tail

when ur spending the weekend with ur relatives

To all the wonderful Aces out there

I’m sending all of my love to Asexual people at Christmas time. This can be an especially hard time for aces, especially if relatives and friends start questioning them about relationships.

Don’t feel like you have to validate your sexuality or reasons why you do not have a partner this Christmas. You should not be made to feel bad about who you are, especially as we near a new year.

Honestly I love this time of year, but the questions from family members drive me insane. For a long time I sat in silence, not speaking out against how uncomfortable those sort of personal questions made me. Not only did I feel uncomfortable, but I felt guilty for not having a partner/relationship. 

I have since discovered that I am on the ace-spectrum. I no longer feel guilty because I no longer believe there is anything wrong with me. I guess that’s the message I wanted to get out today.

Your sexuality does not define you. 

Your lack of interest in sex/relationships/ etc does not mean you are broken.

Also, if people make you feel that bad about you not being in a relationship, you should really reevaluate whether you need those people in your life. 

You should never feel guilty for who you are. 

You are wonderful just the way you are.  I wanted to tell you all that because there are probably plenty of people who won’t hear it from family/friends over this winter season. 

I started this last week and am happy to say that I finished it today!! Please don’t edit it. Thank you. :)

DESTROY THE MYTH THAT ASEXUALS HAVE TO DATE OTHER ASEXUALS TO BE IN A HAPPY/SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

friendly reminder for aces and aros

you do not ever have to understand your experiences with attraction

you do not have to label your attraction if it isn’t helpful for you

you do not have to use the split attraction model if it isn’t helpful for you

it’s okay if multiple orientations fit your experience

ex: demiromantic, quoiromantic, and biromantic

it’s okay if there’s no named orientation that describes your experience

you’re still valid

it’s okay to have a complex identity or mix and match terms to fit your experience

you are not obligated to come out if you don’t want to.

it’s not dishonest, and you are perfectly justified in doing so, whatever your reason(s) may be

it’s okay if there comes a day where you no longer identify as ace and/or aro

it doesn’t have to mean it was a phase or that you grew out of it

it doesn’t mean that what you felt at the time wasn’t valid

Don’t forget about… The ones who are questioning. The ones who are called attention seekers. The ones who are suicidal. The ones who are ‘sent to therapy’. The ones who are abused The ones who are about to go through hell. The ones who are going through hell. The ones who have been through hell. The ones who are all alone.  The ones who can’t seem to catch a break. The ones who can’t transition. The ones who aren’t accepted. The ones who feel hopeless. The ones who think they are broken. The ones who are lost. The ones who don’t know where to turn. Don’t forget about the closet. We were all there once. Some people may find it too much for them. We are survivors and we need to help those who will become survivors too. If you are in the closet know you aren’t alone. If you came out too soon or are in a harmful environment you are not alone. We love you. We want the best for you. We wish that one day you will join us. You’re just as valid and beautiful. Stay strong. 

treat yourself like you would treat your favorite character

some cis girl: men don’t know what it’s like to have periods! uteruses before duderuses! 

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