I Hate Being On The Internet On April 1st Because I Read Something, Get Excited And Then Remember…

oatnene // sue zhao

all of them need to be held accountable for once. i need an apology from noah and his and keith’s asses out of smosh permanently. idc if members are friends with them, these men are awful.

Hey so, we're all agreeing that we're not letting them get away with this right? It's horrible how we've had to just accept bs every few months because one of these assholes has to say/do something gross with no repurcussions. But this really crosses the line for me, people are way too desensitized to derogatory language, especially against women.

It also hurts to know no one else in the room, crew or cast a-like, or anyone who worked on post production said anything about it and it flew under the radar.

board af | are you bored yet - wallows ft. clairo

there is something about adults taking games very seriously that's very hopeful. it's very uncynical. - sam reich, adventuring academy (season 5, episode 1)

The domination of male-coded language.

Especially in the 2010’s, everyone called each other “bro” and “dude”. I’m sure it even happened before this timeframe. Doesn’t matter who is who, what is what. You called everyone and everything “Bro” “Bruh” “Dude” “Man”.

Not many complained. Actually, the expression was shared back. Another way of saying homie. Everyone said it. Everyone accepted it.

Even till this day, for the most part, it is a part of our daily language. It’s become common language, usually to specify friendliness and common ground.

But why doesn’t this happen with female-coded language?

“Girl” “Girlypop” “Bestie”. While I’ll admit, Bestie is not technically female coded, a lot of women do use this word.

I think about how so many people, especially men, get annoyed or upset when called “Girl”. Even “Bestie”. I see men talk about it on Social Media, about how much they hate getting called that. They get annoyed. It’s even come to a point, it is seen as transphobic, we cannot call people Girly Pop or Girl because it can offend someone who is trans identifying.

People come to the defense “well not everyone feels comfortable with that” “not everyone identifies as female”. But only when people are offended by the female-coded terms.

Where is the same energy with women getting offended by being called Bro and Dude? During the 2010’s Giant SJW Bash, I’ve seen women come out that they hated being called Bro and Dude. And nobody had that same logic. They told these women, get over it. Everyone gets called Dude & Bro. It’s normal. It’s a good thing.

The normalization that being male is gender neutrality.

Being called Dude, Bro, Man— it’s ok. Even if you don’t like it. Even if you’re not a man. You should be lucky to be seen as a fellow…man…

#Rambling Thoughts

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I believe that one of the most tragic things that can happen in one’s life is the disruptive relationship with the body you’ve been born with.

Despite all of the things I’ve gone through, I doubt that I would trade that experience, because I’m unwilling to lose the acceptance that I had to fight for.

Like many other girls around the world I’ve witnessed woman’s body and its ‘beauty’ being up for discussion.

By men usually, but it’s always followed by some of the women.

The problems started to come out of thin air.

First there were my ethnic features, my nose in particular. From the present paradigm I can say that there is nothing wrong with it. First and foremost it does its job: I can breathe, and do so very well. Secondly, it’s just… a nose? It’s quite literally ordinary, especially amongst my people, and it’s beautiful to be apart of some society, to be able to trace your history, your DNA by your phenotype. Our bodies are so much more than just us. It’s the history.

But because it was different from the standards of a country where I lived, I was claimed as unattractive. And we all know how men treat women who are not attractive from their point view.

It destroyed me in many ways. I was and still sometimes am embarrassed to walk with people side by side, knowing they can see my side profile. I had this animal fear of them seeing me like that. And only recently I saw one photo of myself, and there was a revelation. There is literally nothing wrong with my nose. It suits my face, and it’s beautiful.

Then there was weight. From my early childhood I’ve been doing sports. All kinds of them. It helped me quite a lot, building stamina and I have been healthy, which supposedly is all that matters.

But when I was just a girl in cheerleading, my male coach has been making remarks of me being chubby, having a stomach. I loved him as a parent figure, I still do, but it’s something I doubt I will be able to forgive. Since those remarks I started thinking about food and the amounts of food I consume. I remember being at a contest, and eating an apple. My coach saw me and said tiredly: ‘you’re eating again.’

And it all changed something within me, irrevocably.

I look back at the picture now, of me being a child, and all I can see is a kid who’s REALLY small. I had no over weight, whatsoever. I was just a child whose features haven’t sharpened.

Lastly, there are stretch marks. It isn’t something that was noticed by anyone. It’s rather something brought up by the internet. I was constantly seeing content about how to deal with stretch marks, and it made me believe that I have to fix my body. I was horrified, how am I so young, and so damaged. I had to buy oils, or whatever else, and to fix it, to become attractive because that is where my value comes.

But it’s not. Your value is not in your beauty, because beauty does not exist. It’s a social construct, as many other things that make people suffer: gender roles, deviance, marriage; the list goes on.

You can make a choice. To not care about those things. To just accept yourself the way you are, the way you were born, the way your body is created.

Because there cannot be anything inherently ‘wrong’ with you.

tbh adopting body neutrality has been life-changing for me like I no longer feel tied to my appearance. It took away the pressure to be always “pretty”. Letting go of beauty standards and rejecting anything that fuels insecurity has been incredibly liberating. Honestly, I’ve stopped shaving and wearing makeup altogether, and it made me realize how men behind big corporations have brainwashed us into believing there's something wrong with us. Young girls obsession with shaving their legs and arms or else they’ll be seen as “disgusting” is just sad also so many influencers are also promoting it not realising little girls are learning from them:/

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