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Hello,

How do you do ? I hop to be in a good condition.

This is my special campaign

We hope to help us by donating or sharing to others.

Every donation makes a different even if it a small.

As you know, the war began on October 7 and lasted ten months. During this period, we were unable to obtain food, drink, or treatment because we did not have money.

There is no source of income for the family at the present time, so we are unable to buy food, clean water, and medicine, especially after we are afflicted with the ongoing infectious diseases spread in the north like Hepatitis C disease.

Our house has been damaged a lot since the beginning of the war. We are from the north of Gaza and we are still in the north and have not displaced to the south. We displaced 10 times from place to another seeking to safety .

We hope for your help and support, even if only a little.🙏🙏

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Thank you all

Hi hello! I hope sharing this can help the cause, unfortunately i don't have the financial capacity to help but i hope this can reach the audience that can

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Donate to Menstrual Care Kits for Women and Girls in Gaza, organized by DIYALA ABDLRASUL

Goal Achieved!! #Sisters4Gaza successfully sent 2,000 menstrual… DIYALA ABDLRASUL needs your support for Menstrual Care Kits for Women

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I am Fidaa from Gaza. I am 29 years old. I stand before you as a person trying to preserve his family. I am married and a mother of two children, Sila, who is two years old, and a child named Muhammad Amr, 2 months old. I gave birth to him during the war and in very harsh conditions that no human being can bear. I moved from the hospital directly to the tent, and I cannot describe the extent of the suffering and difficulty of living in the tent🇵🇸💔💔

We try to live under miserable conditions in tents in Mawasi Khan Yunis, south of Gaza. It is difficult for me to find the words to describe what we face every day in Gaza. No food, no medicine, no clean drinking water, oppression, helplessness, psychological pressures, doubts, and daily trauma due to the loss of loved ones. In Gaza, it's not just hunger, disease and fear; Rather, it means actual death.

We have been forced to move more than 7 times, and my house has been completely destroyed, and I cannot provide enough milk, diapers, medicines, and vitamins for my children.💔🍉🇵🇸😭

Now, I find myself in this difficult situation, and I strongly and humbly ask for your help to save the lives of my family, especially my children, by getting us out of Gaza. The situation in Gaza has become unbearable due to slow death as a result of hunger, thirst, displacement, the spread of diseases and continuous bombing.🍉🇵🇸💔

The past months have been full of hell and horror. This war has gone on for too long, and our mental health and lives are constantly at risk. We have reached a point where there is no hope anymore in Gaza, as if we are waiting for death. Even if a ceasefire is reached, the devastation in Gaza in all its forms cannot be quickly repaired

Please help me and my children to get us out of genocide🍉🇵🇸💔

Your help will contribute greatly to alleviating our suffering. I hope you will share my story with your family and friends.💔💔

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Palestine, Sudan, Congo, many more. All are war crimes and acts against humanity.

Mans was fighting for his life on set

[semantic error] seoham vs jaechan’s cuteness, ft the long-suffering director’s “cuteness ban” — an interview collection

aka

no one:

seoham: jaechannie is so cute, have you seen how cute he is—

T/N: the term consistently used throughout is 귀여워 하다 which ive variously translated as “cute” “affection” “fond”. 귀여움 금지령  might be more accurately translated as “being fond of jaechan ban” but it doesn’t have the same ring lol. It’s hard to convey exactly, but as you can see from context, it’s a ban on seoham not on jaechan 😂 귀여워 하다 transliterated is “to find cute”. It is translated by the 3 dictionaries Naver offers as “love; make a pet of; be affectionate to (esp younger person or animal)”. “love, adore, dote on” “ love, pet, fondle, make a pet, hold ((a person)) dear, be attached to, treat ((a person)) with love[affection]”

220210 N-interview part 2

Q: what was something about the acting that you found difficult?

Jaechan: Sangwoo’s way of speaking is very direct and lacks emotion. So I had to practice a lot to show his emotions through his facial expression.

Seoham: you’ve(?) talked a lot about jaeyoung’s coolness/charisma. That’s not really my style so I had to really think about what it meant to be “cool”. Also Jaeyoung’s emotions change throughout the series. He gets to like Sangwoo after initially harassing him, and because this couldn’t be filmed sequentially I had to keep thinking about his changing feelings and it wasn’t easy to act. And also Jaechan is a particularly cute person so it was hard to act like I was bullying him. The director said “look, I know Jaechan is cute but you’ve got to stop treating him so affectionately”

Q: so there was a “cuteness ban” because you had to immerse in your characters?

Jaechan: hyung would hang out with me (& indulge my antics) and then say with a very serious face “you are not cute” and start his acting

Seoham: it’s not like he was necessarily trying to be cute but more like he was trying to make the other person laugh? that kinda thing

220226 spotv interview

Park Seoham says that Park Jaechan is a “person who is cuteness personified”. 

“Jaechan himself is really just a cute person. So it makes you want to dote on him. So in scenes where I was meant to be bullying him, it appeared that I was actually being fond of him. Also, while filming, it we ended up jumping around between dynamics a lot for various reasons - from being angry to affectionate to love - so it was hard to act out the wildly changing feelings.”

“Eventually, the director told me, ‘come to a cafe,’ so I went there, and they were like ‘you’re being too fond of Jaechan. stop.’ and implemented the ‘Jaechan cuteness ban’. But Jaechan (didn’t pick up on this issue ‘눈치없이’ and) kept being as cute as always. So I eventually ended up going through this mantra before filming: ‘you are not cute. you are not cute at all’.” (he says 주문을 걸었다 which is so funny lol it’s like trying to make yourself believe something, literally ‘casting a spell on yourself’)

220304 sports chosun interview part 2

Seoham: If Jaechan acted cute on purpose then I don’t think I would’ve found him cute, but when he naturally has aegyo when he’s just sitting there grumpily (뚱하게). That’s what I found so cute. And after the ‘cuteness ban’ I’d look at Jaechan standing in front of me doing aegyo, and even while I was saying “you’re not cute!” I’d find myself starting to smile. 

(this interview is rly sweet - it’s where seoham talks about jaechan supporting him & taking him to meet his parents around lunar new year. i might do a full translation later (lmk if one alr exists))

220307 Cine-21 interview

Q: director, please explain the “ban on cuteness” in detail from your perspective

Director: I implemented the ban many times ^^; because the two are so close and seoham is very fond of jaechan/thinks jaechan is very cute, that fondness was in his eyes from the early episodes. so I laid down the ban many times like “stop looking at him with such a soft expression.” “please stop going near him and touching him”

Seoham: But I think it was unfair. When I got the ban I said to jaechan “you really are not cute at all”. And then he did aegyo in front of me like he was saying “not even if I do this?”

Jaechan: when coming back to set after hanging out during the breaks, seoham would tell me very seriously “you are not cute” and that made me want to prove him wrong.

220311 sports w interview part 2

Director: We were rehearsing the scene in episode 6 where they’re having an argument in an alleyway, and the tension just wasn’t there. seoham was already too fond of jaechan so he couldn’t deliver the lines with appropriate bitterness. i ended up telling him to step out for a second and stopped the rehearsal. i told him that i know you’re fond of him, but those emotions just don’t work in this scene. also, the same thing happened when we were filming the second episode, where they’re in the french classroom and jaeyoung is wearing the red clothes, at the peak of his bullying of sangwoo. at this time seoham and jaechan’s friendship was blossoming. seoham needed to show that jaeyoung was enjoying tormenting sangwoo, but the look in his eyes was just too affectionate. i told him to look at sangwoo like he was a cute puppy or a cat *laughs*

220313 star news interview

“The two actors got closer as the episodes progressed. in the early episodes, there are a lot of scenes where jaeyoung is harassing sangwoo, so I had to put a lid on park seoham’s gaze. I remember often saying things like ‘stop doting on jaechan’ ‘stop looking at him so fondly’ ‘please stop looking at him with hearts in your eyes’,” said the director (Kim Sujeong). “But the actors dubbed it a ‘cuteness ban’”, she laughed.

So I got called out 🙈

and can u do august 17th too please? 😌

Language Of Birthdays: August 17 - Leo

[You can find the rest of the series here; or check out my masterlist]

The Day Of Explosive Power

Those born on August 17 are powerful and explosive individuals. They have the high voltage of those born on the previous day, with whom they have much in common, but unlike the latter are very taken up with running the show. Their drive to rule has the underpinnings of a well-established earthiness which grounds their dynamic energies. Most August 17 people, men and women, are dominating authoritarians at heart, who do not brook any challenge to their right to rule whether acting as parents, teachers, military people or even friends. Indeed, those born on this day often run into trouble when their controlling nature becomes too hard for others to handle.

Paradoxically, August 17 people can display a very quiet and even solitary temperament and a strong desire to protect their private life. Outside of their work or social involvements they would prefer to be left alone. Though very outgoing at times, perhaps "the life of the parry," they are hardly wanton exhibitionists, preferring not to waste their energies in grand displays. Those born on this day carry a certain refinement and charm with them, but can also be forbidding enough to keep admirers at arms length.

One of the greatest challenges to August 17 people is to control their argumentative side, along with a tendency to be alternately antagonistic or defensive. If allowed free reign, such urges can create serious difficulties for them, not only making enemies but also alienating friends and family. Those who love and understand August 17 people will try to cope with this untamed energy and readily forgive explosive words and actions. But it reaches a point where those born on this day may push the tolerance of others too far.

Psychologically, many August 17 people exhibit such behaviour because of hidden insecurities and repressed inferiority feelings carried over from childhood. Typically, they have experienced serious problems with one of their parents (often of the same sex) whom they alternately hated and adored. In addition, they may not have taken the pains to really know themselves, and thus when encountering misfortune may brood or grow frustrated rather than learn from experience. Perhaps psychological counselling can help those born on this day to understand themselves better.

Because of their deep natures and their sophisticated thought patterns, these versatile people have a great deal to offer in many areas if they can get a handle on their energies. Though August 17 people very rarely act with malicious intent, they can be driven by forces beyond their control, forces often kept bottled up inside. Various forms of mental discipline can help them manage these "hurricane" energies, i.e. learning to monitor early warning signs and calm the winds before a storm develops.

Strengths:

Versatile

Forceful

Earthy

Weaknesses:

Tempestuous

Antagonistic

Aloof

Advice

The greatest health danger for August 17 people is illness brought on by suppressed aggression. If those born on this day allow problems to eat away at them and express such worries only in fits of temper, they will be at risk for ulcerative stomach and intestinal conditions, hypertension and malignancies of all kinds. Encouraging their social nature, working and liv- ing in an energetic, free-flowing fashion will do wonders for their health. All endeavors which open them up to the world are recommended—group exercise, meals and social activities of all sons. All forms of depression (which is often anger driven inside) should be attended to as quickly as possible.

Moderate your intensity when appropriate

Use downtime to examine your motivations; get to know yourself better

Observe yourself in daily life and learn to recognize the early warning signals of destructive temper

Try to keep things light

A loyal psychologist that needs to listen for once 😬

A loyal voice of reason who needs to find stability

i’ll be missing you x namjoon

This couch scene 🔥😏😍

(video credit to @noona96n)

early bts discography be like

are you excited about hanyu fanboying bts? :D

(for those who missed it: yuzuru hanyu — the legendary, record-breaking olympic figure skating GOAT, i talked a lot about this godly man (intro masterpost) — has once again talked about becoming an army and creating a glorious skating programme for their music.)

my opinion? i couldn't be any more hyped up!!!!

whatever he lays his eyes (or actually, feet) on, yuzu becomes 1000% madly, artistically obsessed with. gold athlete mentality, he's the best in his field with good reason. we can brace ourselves for an absolute virtuoso bts routine, a creme de la creme display, the finest of the fine renditions, it's literally going to be an honor to watch this. he said it verbatim, it's coming! i got such an adrenaline rush that he's finally going for it.

it's only been a matter of time. my man has been bopping to DNA months back, the taste of him as always remains impeccable. and then, down the rabbithole he went. i wonder who he biases if any, it would be hilarious to know for the lols 😂

i bet my blog on yuzu being a jimin (or jjk) bias type of guy. the dramatic ballet dancer squad who don't give a fuck about gender norms. these two were cast in the same mold.

since he said he practices their choreography already and did some Dynamite elements on ice, it might be that one he's going for. i really look forward to how he's gonna translate all this into his craft. this might collapse two entire fandoms cuz it's gonna be SO good. figure skating twitter has been in a rapture for literal days and i've seen a lot of army catching up on who yuzu is. lord have mercy he might give us a bts routine at the fucking next winter olympics or something. i for my part will lose it, prepare for my meltdown over this historic event.

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https://www.wattpad.com/story/277267446-what%27s-happening-in-south-africa

Listen up

SOUTH AFRICA has been having an unofficial civil war for the past 20 years but things have been escalating until 2 days ago when former ANC president Zuma was arrested. Things went from a tense 8 to 100 real quick as sporadic and violent riots broke out as pro zuma supporters took to the streets. They have burnet down malls. Looted and destroyed countless shops. Killed a journalist. Injured many others. The rioters have even taken a town hostage. No info is able to be gained on that town. This morning the rioters tore down the gates for the animal enclosures at nature reserve. The covid vaccine laboratory is on fire. Kzn has been on shutdown since yesterday. Journalists are falling left and right and the violence only continues. My people are dying. Civilian milita have been working alongside police to try curb the riots and have nothing to show for their help. Things are just getting worse and worse and closer and closer. Please reblog and help raise awareness of these violent atrocities. Cars are being bombed with people still driving. Our cities are burning.

These pictures dont even capture just how bad things are right now.

Pray for SA

Behind the scenes 🥺💕

New video 🔥💕

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https://www.instagram.com/tv/CN13IfenYtp/?igshid=13r9kyp2i59l5

Yu speaking Japanese is so cute

You don’t believe me? Okay, I’ll confess my love for you at the top of my lungs in my native tongue for the whole world to hear.

We Best Love: No.1 For You as textposts 

+ bonus

idk if anyone else picked up on this but when shu yi says he has a girlfriend and goes on about how women are better, it was like he was taunting shi de. trying to hint at or allude to the fact that he “knows” he cheated without words. obviously shi de didn’t pick up on it because he didn’t cheat on shu yi, much less with a women, but i’m thinking shu yi didn’t want to make him jealous as much as he wanted to make him feel guilty. jealousy was just a bonus lol.

i also think the moment in the beginning where shi de brings him into his office the first time and apologizes, and shu yi responds with a softer more vulnerable “for what?” that he was expecting shi de to apologize for “cheating”. and when he didn’t he lashed out and that led to taunting him later at his house, he wants him to own up to it.

Giving Good Kiss in BL

From an acting perspective there’s a good YouTube video on how to kiss and show chemistry on screen plus analysis of some of Hollywood’s most famous kisses. 

But I’m interested in the watcher/critic perspective. So… 

Let’s smooch it out.

For the purposes of this discussion I am only going to talk about mouth kissing, (AKA sexual intent romantic partner kissing). I’m not going to delve into forehead kissing (worship, benediction, sacred love) or cheek kissing (familial, affection, filial love). 

I think a good kiss (from the viewers perspective) comes down to three things: 

emotional resonance (AKA emotional empathy - heart)

physical reactions (AKA sexual resonance - body)

sympathetic execution (AKA intellectual connection - mind)

In other words, the audience needs to feel that the characters  

like each emotionally 

desire each other physically 

are enjoying it (AKA understand each others needs intellectually)

We kinda wrap it all up under the umbrella term “chemistry." 

Some BL pairs only gets one or two of the three right. Sometimes only one half of the couple is good at any of it. Sometimes it’s a miss-match with one actor good at transmitting emotion and the other physical interest. Sometimes this miss-match is intentional because one character is imposing his will in a dominant fashion. in which case the chemistry of the kiss itself is intentionally askew. 

Chemistry involves mental, physical, and emotional comfort levels and transmitting them on screen. 

That’s why the Taiwanese workshopping techniques are so admirable, whatever they do really helps their actors give good all round chemistry. 

Taiwanese BL has its issues but on screen chemistry is NOT one of them. Almost all their pairings are really really good at all three elements. 

Types of Smooches 

So there are also different kinds of kisses: 

THE DEMANDING KISS (seme to uke, most common in BL) 

One character is clearly in charge, so there is a power imbalance (many viewers find the imbalance itself sexy). This is not necessarily an imbalance in desire (although it often is for the first kisses), but in character dominance/submission. Sometimes the kiss is talked about or permission is requested beforehand (DeanPharm in UWMA). 

THE MUTUAL KISS  

Both characters want to kiss at the same time, no one is in charge. Harder to execute as the actors have to telegraph unspoken communication usually with eye contact, mouth glances, and breath matching (Jeff & Gameplay in Ingredients did a great job at this type of kiss). 

A good mutual kiss generally only occurs when characters have a weak seme/uke dynamic and high emotional resonance. It’s awesome in slow burn and friends to lovers romances. Taiwan and Korea are particularly good at this kind of kiss. 

THE SUDDEN KISS 

One boy darts forward or pulls the other boy into a surprise kiss which can result in a range of responses from: 

a willing melt to 

a dead fish response (the first kiss in To My Star) to 

a push away and mouth wipe to 

a punch 

From an acting perspective this is the easiest kiss to execute. Sometimes it’s the seme who surprises the uke, but more often it’s the uke relenting that causes this kind of kiss. Both come strongly from a yaoi traditions. The shirt collar (or tie grab) and drag forward is particularly popular. 

THE LTR KISS (AKA long term relationship kissing) 

In this case kissing in general is clearly something done by the characters on the regular. These kinds of kisses reinforce a love and affection already in place, rather than most of the ones I’ve mentioned which are first/early/establishing kisses. 

Generally speaking, the acting pair has to be really comfortable with each other to make an LTR kiss work, or insanely good actors. It’s rare in BL because sexualized LTRs are rarely represented at all. TayNew are pretty good at this kind of kiss and also SamYu at the end of both seasons of WBL. 

THE DEAD FISH KISS

Annoyed fan short-hand for any kiss where the actors fail at all three aspects of chemistry. Sometimes it is entirely understandable (the actors are minors, there has been no workshopping, etc…) but it’s still no fun to watch. Classic examples are PhunNoh in Love Sick and TeeFuse in Make it Right. (MIR even makes a self referential joke about this in Make It Right on the Beach.) 

This is the kind of kiss where the actors clearly don’t know what to do and/or are uncomfortable with each other, which makes the audience uncomfortable. Usually, they just press firmly closed lips together and the camera pans out and around to the back of the head. Most of the time it’s not intentional. (Which means the actors are transmitting the wrong kind of emotion to the watcher.) Much as I adore Color Rush, it has this kind of kiss. 

Sometimes a dead fish kiss works with the story. The first kisses in To My Star showcase one side of the equation in dead fish mode intentionally. This means that the final kiss, which is very much mutual, has that much more resonance. It was a genius move on Korea’s part. 

THE NON-ROMANTIC EMOTIONAL KISS 

This is when a kiss is used to transmit some other form of emotion, usually the opposite from normal - desperation, loss, despair, sadness. The kiss is neither romantic nor sexual nor sympathetic. It intentionally contrasts the 3 elements that make up good chemistry by activating chemistry in an opposite direction, so that in the moment of the kiss the characters don’t like, desire, or enjoy each. However, the audience needs to feel that they could, or once had, the initial 3 criteria foundation. From an acting perspective this is very difficult to do. The stairwell reunion kiss in Brokeback Mountain is a good example of a non-romantic emotional kiss. 

This kind of kiss is almost never done in BL, or if it is, it’s not done well, because it requires an insane amount of trust between the acting pair and skill from the actor portraying aggressor to maintain audience sympathy. (The other kind of kiss that intentionally avoids the 3 core elements of chemistry is the kind that is a violent act of non-consent.) 

The best example of a non-romantic but super emotional kiss is THAT kiss in We Best Love: Fighting Mr. Second and it was (and still is) contentious because the treads the consent line. In my experience of BL so far, only Japan (His is another great example) and Taiwan have ever really used this kiss. 

THE HIGH HEAT KISS 

How to put this? Well, there’s usually tongue involved and it’s mostly emphasizing the physical aspect of a clearly sexual relationship - it’s hella gay. Very few Thai, Vietnamese, or Korean pairs do high heat kissing. Lots of early Chinese pre-censorship did and some of the darker stuff from Japan still does. Only Taiwan consistently puts this kind of kiss into their BL.  

Examples 

Why is BL so obsessed with MewGulf? Well the actors were consistently excellent at all 3 elements of a good kiss and gave high heat kisses. Because of them we genuinely believed that Tharn & Type: 

liked each emotionally

desired each other physically

and enjoyed it (AKA understood each others needs intellectually)

Individually both Mew and Gulf transmitted this to the audience, and together as a couple they also managed to do so. The short hand is… they had great chemistry. (Incidentally, Mew has good chemistry with other partners. He did high heat successfully in What the Duck too.) 

ZeeSaint were pretty good at all of it as well, but they excelled at elements 2 & 3 in particular. 

MaxTul in the later parts of the Together series and in Manner of Death were also excellent allrounders. 

The friends to lovers dynamic is particularly good at moving characters towards all three aspects, because 1 & 3 are already established, only the physical is required to shift the dynamic into a romantic relationship. Personally, I’m a fan of this dynamic pivot occurring because of a one night stand or drunken kiss expressly because it can be that tipping point and it makes the sexual encounter particularly charged (Second Chance and 2 Moons 2 both used this approach).  

Singto and Krist in SOTUS, on the other hand had 1. great emotional resonance but 2. poor physical reactions (especially Krist) and 3. weak execution. Their couple comes off as kind of ace as a result. 

The characters clearly liked each other but equally clearly the actors don’t wanna kiss each other, so when they do on screen they don’t seem to enjoy it, and they can’t seem to stop that from showing to viewers. 

Some pairs can be really good at transmitting elements 1 + 3 (which is emotional affection and intellectual couple connection) but not great at the physical/sexual component. 

This style of approach is becoming more and more common in Thai BL. And is legally mandated by censorship in modern Chinese BL (such as it is). 

The industry term for this kind of heat level is sweet romance. 

Which is to say, the physical aspect of the relationship is deemed less important than the other two (overtly, or simply through lack of representation). 

Watchers find this easy to forgive (and many prefer it) because we are trained to accept sweet romance in most romcoms and/or come from sexually repressed and prudish backgrounds. Or, ya know, are heterosexuals who think the gays kissing is “cute” but really don’t want to think about anything more than a kiss. 

(Yes there’s more going on here, but I’m not unpacking a history of queer cinema for ya, or the repressed machinations of your personal psyche, we’re just talking kisses here.) 

Do I think sweet romance is morally or ethically wrong? 

Nope. Not at all. Color Rush is one of my favorite BLs of all time, it has very poor chemistry and a dead fish kiss. Oxygen is the ultimate sweet romance and I love it even though the lead pair’s chemistry is all over the place. TharnType is one of the highest heat best chemistry BLs in existence and I can’t even begin to count the number is problems I have with it. 

Being critical of something does not mean you must forbid yourself from loving it. That too is a kind of chemistry. Understanding and accepting our own relationship with (and comfort taken from) these narratives is what I’m after. 

* A quick note from the production side. I don’t know how exactly this works in Asian production houses, but kisses can be expensive. Like literally. Often there are contract clauses indicating how many and how intimate they are, and with which other actors. Which is why we see main couples kiss but not side couples. Or the reverse, if side actors are particularly cheap, they might kiss more. 

The Damage Done By Uneven Chemistry 

But there is other stuff going on to with low heat BL, culturally and narratively. 

Diminishing the high heat aspects and the overtly gay physical connection of couple chemistry has tons of inadvertent messaging attached. Not just anti-sex. 

It makes the gay-for-you more obvious (the characters don’t really desire each other, they just love each other so much they’re willing to make an exception to their “natural” inclinations AKA it’s okay because it’s you) *sigh* 

It makes the characters seem less gay over all. Because heaven forfend they be actually gay and want to screw each other. 

When physical relations are required, they are shrouded in an aura of “I just can’t help myself, he’s too cute” desperation, which inevitably leads to drunken dubious or non-consensual situations. (Because if they actually wanted each other in a healthy way = too gay.)

It’s easier on the actors to lean towards bromance over gay. 

It encourages an international audience’s assumption that certain Asian countries are sexually repressed. 

It plays nice with a homophobic audience and censorship.

On a mercenary level, less sexiness = more acceptable time slots, age ratings, distribution, and reach. 

It’s so much the norm in Thai BL, that when high heat good chemistry does show up, audiences freak out and immature minds assume the actors must be in a relationship themselves because it couldn’t possibly be that they’re, ya know, ACTORS who are GOOD AT THEIR JOBS. 

My little queer arse is gonna take a few breaths and calm down now. 

But I do think game shows, interviews, and IRL skinship obsession is juvenile at best and stupidly damaging and hurtful to the talent at worse. It reminds me of those people who yell at actors in supermarkets because they play the baddie on a daytime soap opera. 

You do know how to separate reality and fiction, right? Oh wait, this is the internet. Probably not. 

Imma talk about Lovely Writer for a mo. 

Lovely Writer is consciously trying to correct for a TON of wrongs that sweet romance in BL, uneven chemistry, and Thai BL in general, has wrought over the years. Pretty much all those messages I listed above? Lovely Writer is attempting to rectify: 

Gene is explicitly not gay-for-you. 

It’s making it clear the couple wants to screw each other.

It’s putting consent front and center.

This is tough on both actors, but they are stepping up to the plate as much as possible. 

It’s actively battling ideas around Asians being sexually repressed, and it did this particularly well with the family coming out sequence.

It’s challenging homophobic audiences and censorship.

It’s risking good time slots, broad age ratings, distribution, and reach because of this. 

It’s directly pointing out the damage IRL skinship and fan stalker behavior can do to actors personally and professionally. 

Which is why shipping KaoUp is kinda stomach churning and pretty flipping disgusting. Do not comment, just unfollow if you disagree. I don’t want to hear justification for obsessive objectification; celebrity fetishization; demonized sexualization; public outing; touch shaming; or diminishment of a popular performer’s privacy, agency, or autonomy as a result of their job. 

In conclusion: 

WATCH & SUPPORT LOVELY WRITER!!!!! 

Best Kisses in BL? 

(Main couples only. Kisses only. This is not an assessment of the quality of the drama itself, or whether I personally enjoyed it.)

Cornered Mouse Dreams of Cheese (Japan) 

HIStory Obsessed (Taiwan)

HIStory 2 Crossing the Line (Taiwan)

HIStory 2 Right or Wrong (Taiwan) 

HIStory 3 Make Our Days Count (Taiwan - both couples)

HIStory 3 Trapped (Taiwan - both couples)

HIStory 4 Close to You (Taiwan - both couples) 

Ingredients (Thai)

Just Friends? (Korea)

Like In The Movies (Pinoy)

Long Time No See (Korea)

Lovely Writer (Thai) 

Manner of Death (Thai)

My Day (Pinoy)

Most Peaceful Place Is You (Vietnam)

Pornographer (Japan)

Second Chance (Thai - both couples) 

TharnType 1 & 2 (Thai)

To My Star (Korea)

Together with Me (Thai)

Until We Meet Again (Thai - all couples) 

Why R U? (Thai - both couples)

We Best Love 1 & 2 (Taiwan)

You Are Ma Boy (Vietnam)

I’m watching a few right now that might make this list in the future. 

Here’s me being silly about this: Chef de Smooching - Recipes for BL Iron Chef Thailand 

I mean- where's the lie though 👀

shi de: don’t you wanna know if i cheated?

shu yi: lol no. you’re a fucking simp.

YU:

me (& Sam, probably lol):

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That slap was everything. It was the first thing I saw of this drama and I binged the entire show in one sitting 👀 Just the pure fury of it, the bitterness in Shu Yi's eyes. I felt that slap go through me. The intensity and angst between these two characters are what drew me to this drama. Of course it's not okay to hit your partner irl but for this drama I have it a pass because that slap told me everything I needed to know about them and where they're at in the relationship at the start of Season 2.

Ok but if Shi De promises me to love me and cherish me and take care of me for the rest of our lives and one day he just stops all contact, and when I go to look for him I find him chilling in the park having a blast with another woman, while he is still ignoring me, and I tell him to not worry about taking care of me anymore and to just live his new life, and after five years of me being completely heartbroken working for my shitty dad’s firm, he shows his face in front of me, I will slap the shit out of him too

i'll cook for you when you come back from the US

We Best Love; No.1 For You as textposts

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Hueningkai, Mark (NCT), Umjj and Yerin.

Reblog this with your personal idol squad with the same zodiac sign as you. Mine would be Jackson, Lisa, Sehun, and Irene.

Brad and his obsession with sun flares - present even on our trip to South Africa.  

AND THIS WAS ANOTHER EPISODE OF “YOONGI WOULD ALWAYS SUPPORT ME” BY JIN

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