I think a big part of the reason that I went from anti-endo to endo-safe was absolutely due to how starkly different the communities felt.
Anti-endo communities were hard to engage with. Sure, some of them would focus on their support for each other more than their hatred of endogenic systems. And that's great! However, when you are brought together by your dislike of a certain group, you can't help but feel the hate permiate into so much of it. It always happened eventually. Anti-endo communities had such a focus on systems who were "fake" that I couldn't help but worry I was one of them, no matter how much they told me it was "just endos" they were concerned about.
The endo community (at least the parts I've engaged with and were easy to find) were so kind and respected me as a system, no matter how I felt or my plurality presented. Simply knowing we could find joy in our plurality allowed us to strive for so much more than we had thought possible before.
As a traumagenic system, we've improved so much with our symptoms and communication as a result of the positivity and acceptance we recieved. When we joined communities where we could be authenticallly ourselves (no matter what), we came together and faced so much less conflict between each other. And the conficts we did have, we realized that we could solve them together rather than alone.
When you are constantly doubting if you are "actually a system", you start to push the others away, and that made our dissociation and amnesia so much worse. I understand being careful of self-misdiangnosis, it can put you on the wrong path for how you learn to manage your symptoms. At the same time, the sentiment I often heard from endogenic systems when I was struggling with doubt and denial was very simple: "So what if you're not a system?" In short, it was okay to be wrong.
And that was huge for me. I realized that, no matter if I was a system or not, the techniques I used to improve ourselves and communicate with one another beneficial to me. At the end of the day, even if I wasn't a system after all, the skills I had found we invaluble to my health and well-being. So when I fall into denial spirals, no matter what I think about myself, I now know that I don't need to deprive myself of what has helped me, even if it is a "system thing." I don't feel scared to use these skills anymore (even in denial spirals), beacuse the line between what systems and non-systems or singlets can/can't do suddenly wasn't a big deal or a battle of "who can do what."
Our plurality is no longer a burden or a scar to us. It is simply who we are. We've learned so much about each other and ourselves since we've been accepted in full, and since we've learned to accept others. Endogenic communities have helped us (a traumagenic system) probably more than they'll ever know, and we're forever grateful for that.
So thank you, endogenic systems.
I never imagined that I would reach this stage. Since the first day of the war, I have fought with all my might to preserve my life, the life of my family, and the life of those I love. I have witnessed unimaginable pain, and yet I continue on the path in the hope of keeping my family and loved ones alive life
But today, I find myself in a place of great vulnerability. My family has been devastated by this war. We've lost our home and have been displaced over and over again, each time breaking a piece of us.
Now, with a heavy heart, I am reaching out to you for help. We urgently need your support. I don't take this lightly, and it has taken me a lot of courage to ask. But the situation is desperate, and I can't do this alone.
Winter has entered and the rains are coming, and after we lost our home, we only have a torn tent that is not suitable for living in the rainy weather that will come. I am afraid that we will drown, and I cannot withstand these conditions.
I will attach a link to my GoFound Me and my PayPal link so that you can help me as quickly as possible before it is too late.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for standing with me. I hope, somehow, this message reaches those who can offer support.
This is the latest photo of our house that I miraculously took due to the bad conditions, so that you know that I am honest and that I am right in everything I said.
This is a picture of the tent last winter, how water entered the tent
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able bodied people will freak out when they see an ambulatory mobility aid user not using their aids but won't question it when a hiker only uses a walking stick or trekking poles when they're hiking. they're the same thing.
misty morning by Tom Everett
I feel like most able bodied people see wheelchairs as the worst thing that could happen to a person. When I discuss my want to have a wheelchair for various reasons, most peoples first reaction is to be surprised that I could voluntarily consider that.
But what they fail to consider is that, unlike them, I very much hate walking. It causes me pain and fatigue, it is a miserable experience.
So to any able bodied person reading this, yes some wheelchair users like walking, some want to gain that ability back, but that does not invalidate the feelings of wheelchair users who absolutely hate walking.
Warning: Long post under the cut.
Hii, I just wanted to share some things I do to make studying less boring having ADHD :)
Coloring task list
In a picture frame, I put some drawings of potion bottles underneath the glass, and as I go doing my tasks, I color the potion bottle with a white board marker, as if I was filling the bottle, until it gets full, this method motivates me to keep going, to see the drawing fully colored, besides, it's a good way to visualize your progress.
Cloze
My to go study method is cloze, basically I blur out the keywords of my text (I part it in questions or topics, but you can do as you please), then, I open the notes app and try to ''fill the blanks'' and complete the words that are missing, that not only is a good way to memorize, but also is a good way of answering questions without draining all your energy while doing so.
Breaks
I hate pomodoro, i usually just take a bunch of tasks, and part them in groups, by doing that, when I complete a bunch of quests, I can take a break with an appropriate time for the tasks I just did.
Water and posture reminders
I like to have reminders to fix my posture and drink some water, but notifications are just not annoying enough, so I make an alarm, an actual alarm that will show up in the middle of the screen and interrupt me so I can actually drink water before turning it off
Well those are the tips I got, I hope it helps you as much as they help me! :D
Sometimes you’re gonna have access needs that are incompatible with another disabled person’s and that’s valid.
Neither of you are ableist for not being able to accommodate each other’s needs.
ur future nurse is using chapgpt to glide thru school u better take care of urself
I just need one small break — some reprieve from the prison that is my employment.
It is your voice that is likely to reach people who have not considered what Palestinian occupation really means.
And realistically, it is your solidarity that can help shift public opinion in the west.
Please watch Born in Gaza on netflix or motaz_azaiza on instagram 🙏🏼
People who have been labeled "anxious" or "paranoid" can still be in legitimate danger. People who have been labeled "dramatic" and "attention seeking" still have legitimate needs. People who have been labeled "lazy" still have legitimate struggles. People who have been labeled "stupid" still have legitimate concerns. Don't dehumanize and pathologize people in the name of psychiatry