One of my favorite responses in my Social Interaction Toolkit is:
Allistic people tend to ask one question when they actually mean something quite different (this is one of many ways in which allistic people are strange and exotic). So when I don't want to hazard guessing, my default response is to cheerfully respond to ambiguous questions with "Why do you ask?"
Usually if I do it casually, people don't notice I didn't answer the original question, and instead move on to their Actual Question. (Also works if you just prefer to give noncommittal answers.) Very very basic example but:
Person: "Are you busy/what are you doing this weekend?"
You (too tired to guess-and-then-calculate-an-emotional-slash-external-response based on if this is a prelude to a social invitation, an acquaintance asking for a favor, a coworker asking to trade shifts, boss wanting you to work overtime, etc): *vague but friendly smile* Why do you ask?
Person: Well I wanted to know if....
Very useful shortcut/cheatcode
as a country kid who later lived in the city, and who is also non-binary, I can confidently say that i am in fact, the source of authority on which song vibe and which do not
Some kids in my math class were talking abt crushes and shit and I asked them yknow, what’s the feeling, what’s it like. And they described it as “weird” and “stressful” like??? Why put yourself through that that doesn’t sound fun
remembering so many people being like “well actually salt lamps don’t have any REAL benefits” as if having a pink glowing rock in the room is not a benefit. it helps me
i love obscure animal species with super specific names. found out about a new species of snake called the black headed cat eyed snake and im like damn i already know two things about this animal
I don’t even know how to explain how much this post means to me I straight up cried laughing the first time I saw it and it still makes me laugh every time I see it. it’s been months
new twitter migrants users be like gougar outside the tent
veil's been thin these past few days. anyone else notice that the veil's been thin these past few days
writing romance is even more wild it’s like I don’t know why the hell these words go together but they sure as heck seem to make people cry
being loveless and being able to enjoy romance in fiction is so fucking wild
its like, i have no concept of what love even is, i fundamentally cannot understand it, but you can be damn sure i’ll cry my eyes out during the lesbian wedding in the video game i like
if the pjo television show had any guts they would've cast rick riordan in all the roles and put him in different wigs
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